Thursday, September 17, 2009

Journey’s end, time to begin anew

When the door closes on something good do you stand look at the closed door so long and miss the open door? It is usually because you fear change so you stand and wait hoping against all hope that the closed door will reopen and let you back in.

Only once it is closed it will never open to you again because everything you needed to learn from it you already have. There is nothing more for you there but to pick up and move on but what you may not realize is that the closed door caused change too.

So even though you don’t want change and are scared of it you still get it whether or not you want it. It doesn’t matter what way you look at it the closed door behind you is change in and of itself as is the open door in front of you.

So you try to hold onto the close door as long as you can because you know it and all it holds but the new door you do not. Since it is unexplored who knows what it might hold for you and some times you would rather not chance it.

In childhood I use to hold onto the good times with all my might never wanting to let go for anything. Because I found change so scary and thought that good times were few and far in between.

When I was five or six years old there was almost always places to go and people to visit, friends, cousins and grandparents. As I got older those times that were so fun became fewer and fewer so I started to miss them more and more.

Whenever someone would stop by for a while and leave I got a huge sense of loss and didn’t want them to leave. As I got a bit older I started hating those times and didn’t want to see anyone anymore hoping to not feel the emptiness it left behind.

So much so that I started hating any change big or small and would dig in my feet against anything I didn’t like. Or something that had the appearance of bringing change along with it and when something did I always wanted it to go back to what it had been.

To that degree some of us fear change because at a young age if it gives you a strong painful emotion. An emotion you don’t know how to deal with that comes from change so you will always fear change and be afraid of anything that is in any way related to it.

Thus you get a strong sense of dread whenever you start a new journey or think you are going to start a new journey. Usually you stop yourself from moving forward because you try to hold onto something that you feel is good not wanting to loss it.

At the end of every journey another one begins and at the end you are not only saying good bye to something good. You are also saying good bye to a part of you that you were and no longer need so you can become more.

Only the release of good bye can allow you to move on and become more and be who you are meant to be. Journeys end does not have to be sad unless you make it that way instead it can be a joy of saying thank you for all I was and learned and will become.

You can say good bye with happiness for all the journey has brought you and for the wonderfully thought of what is to come. When one door closes another one opens and when you have completed a journey are about to say good bye and move on say thank you for everything.

Let everything that you saw, felt, thought and experienced come to mind and be grateful for it all and move forward. I look forward to every new beginning and gratefully say good bye because there is always one person that come with me on every journey.

That person I know I will always get to take with me no matter what and that person becomes better with every passing day. That person to me is of course me and when you look in the mirror the person that goes with you on all your own journeys is YOU.

Beautiful wonderful you! Always love the person you are and be grateful that you will always be there for everything.
So has ended for me a journey that seems I started a lifetime ago now and yet it wasn’t so long at all.

Now I joyfully start a new one that is even more amazing then the one before because of all the changes I see in myself and in life surrounding.
There is much beauty to see when you are in between the ending of one journey and the beginning of a new one.

Look around you the color of everything is brighter and the things you see every day or brighter.
Every has looks the same but has somehow changed because it is you that has changed and when you do. Everything else changes with you, because it is all you and always has been and always will be.

Take a good look.

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Peak Coach Performance

Just a small note to pass along to other coaches a webinar that I said I would help another coach pass along the word for, so here's the info for you all.

A free webinar on Peak Coach Performance On July 23, hosted by Chuck Schroeder. You can check it out here

In the webinar he will go over 4 keys to success in the coaching business:

* Running the business of the business
* Doing the Coaching
* Getting and maintaining clients, and
* Maximizing your Peak Coach Performance™

Chuck Schroeder, is a Executive Coach and Founder of all things coaching.

I told Chuck, I would help him out and spread the word to those I figured would be interested in it. The time for it are at 5 PM Pacific (6 Mountain, 7 Central,8 Eastern).


Love and abundance I look forward to seeing you all there!

Sunday, July 5, 2009

No matter how much or little you have, if you have happiness you have it all.

Gratitude. There is a quote that goes ““Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.- Robert Brault, Author.

For me it is about being grateful for the things you have and for the little things, only you will begin to see that when your grateful for them they really are the big things not the opposite.

Know the trick, “What you put your attention/focus on expends; well it is true because when your being thankful for those small things, it gives you more to be grateful for and those little things don’t seem so little.

At least that’s how it is for me and what it was like yesterday, so many little things served to make it feel like another one of my best days ever, a great feeling from out of nowhere.

Even a distant neighbor giving me heck about being single and having to listen to him talk about finding the right person (for like the 50th time) it didn’t bother me either even though I’ve heard it time and again from him.

Funny how people who have been divorced a couple of times have always got to give you advice for dating when they have had so much trouble in that area themselves. No way would anyone want to take advice from someone who’s had trouble in the area they are trying to give you advice in!

The thing is you want advice from someone who already has what you want, not the opposite. Things are a lot different in the dating then they were back in his day and age and you have to take your time and not rush things.

You really have to know yourself, your values and what’s most important to you and find someone whom shares your interests and passions in life. Though I have to say most importantly don’t go for just anyone at all either.

You can not just be with anyone, you want to be with Someone! Not a person who makes you comfortable and is nice to be with, but someone who is so amazing you can not even believe it.

Someone who blows your mind and takes your breathe away with the things that he/she does and amazing he/she is, the perfect someone that you might feel is only in your dreams and you might not ever find someone like that.

So do you feel like your holding out for the perfect someone and a friend or someone asks what your holding out for, tell them you are holding out for everything, and everything you will have.

Though not the point I wanted to make here, some times it’s just that people like that neighbor seem act as though I am wasting my life if I’m not married or that if I don’t have someone of my own then I can not be happy or something.

Things like that come on their own time and you can not put a time limit on it. My point here is, yesterday was the 4th of July and most everyone was watching and/or lighting off firecrackers.

I spent the day talking to and hanging out with my sister and family, neither I nor the family had the money to get fireworks and they didn’t go to a display either and neither did I.

Despite that I had one of the best days of my life, it wasn’t about the big things, even though I love the work displays and even though it’s the time of year I always look forward to.

I had fun watching Nail Diamond in TV with my mom and their were just so many things throughout the day that made it so awesome that it didn’t matter so much.

So of those little things I am grateful for yesterday, they really were the big things because it doesn’t matter how much or little you have so long as you have happiness then you really everything.

So forget the rest it doesn’t matter so long as you choose to be happy.

"In daily life we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful,but gratefulness that makes us happy. _ Unknown Author.

Sunday, May 24, 2009

Take a chance, you might just find you have everything to lose and everything to gain from it

Why is it that we fear to do some things and not others? I feel the answer to that question is comfort zone, something's we fear to do because it is out side of our current comfort zone, while others are not.

Some times also we don't do a lot of the things we really want to do because we are scared to do them, and as a result of that we find ourselves unhappy and/or resentful of others who have more then we do.

Another direct result of not getting or going for what we want is of course having less then we deserve and lower self-esteem and lowered self confidence.

How many times have you not done something or gone for something you knew you really wanted, and all because the "what if's" kept popping up in your mind so you didn't?

Some times we wait and in some of those times we wait to long or until we feel pain and only then do we act. No one should wait until they feel pain and yet, pain is a big motivating force. You would think that everyone likes to learn the hard, no in fact it is that we want change and fear it at the same time.

Would you rather learn the hard way what happens when you don't go for what you want?
I have seen what the price to pay is when you don't take a chance, some times it is not that bad. Other times it is.

Just before I saw what listening to the what if's and not taking a chance does, had read something and it started me thinking, what if I didn't take a chance even if I was scared and really missed out, you know, I said as much to my mother, I told her that we should be more afraid of what "WONT happen" because we did not take a chance then actually being afraid of "Might" happen. I would rather say that I took a chance no matter what then to say, 'oh jeez I could have had that' it's a better way to do things then to just sit and watch things pass you by that you could have had.

I have a very good example of what missing out on something is like and I hope it goes home for you so that you wont have to learn the hard way. Okay this one is really personal difficult to write but I strongly about putting it out there for others to see so they could learn from it the way I did and am so thankful I did.

I have known someone that I would have given my right arm to date (well maybe not bu you get my meaning) so anyway I got to know him some but not really well because I was and I wasn't all that interested and I was put off by the difference in age. So even though I liked him and I knew he liked me I kind of went the other way and didn't let him know I was interested, mostly because of the age and I told myself that he wasn't really interested in me or at least that's what I told myself, confidence was a problem as well.

So let a long time pass me by and didn't do anything until it was to late, of course in that time I had met someone whom I was engaged to be married to, and of course I needed time to move on again, but by then I found out I was to late because he is taken now.

Though while having a conversation with my sister the other day it just kind of hit me what I had to learn from it, because while I knew that we can lose out on some good things if we try or take chance but this time I had something to go on. Something that I had a chance at and missed out on, and I regret having missed the chance now that I have the confidence.

So even though I know now what people mean when first hand when they go for it right and do not wait until you have this or that, and why is because you might never have the chance, and so it was with me.

Even though it happened I'm really glad it did because I learned a very valuable life lesson and I do not care how I learned it because I needed to learn it and it's going to stay with me for a long time. So whenever I see something that I want to go for and I'm a little bit scared about it, I'll think about that situation and realize just what I have could lose if I don't take a chance.

I know that this is a really big turning point in my life and I feel that I'm going to be so much more thankful for having learned that lesson later on in life.

So I hope you can learn from my example and not have to do things the hard way and remember this go for it and don't wait until you have something you "think" you need, so while you might have nothing to gain from it you might just have everything to lose, you never know.

"You don't know what you could lose if you don't go for it, you could just gain a lifetime."

Thursday, May 21, 2009

The universe loves YOU

Has anyone ever told you just how loved you are? Not just by people, but by god or source or the universe, or whatever that is higher then ourselves that you believe in. For me it is “God’ the universe and/or the world at large.

I know that I am loved and that I am watched over, here I’ll tell you what I mean in more detail.

This is something that has been running through my mind a lot the last few months and it has given me a different outlook on life, it is a more positive way of looking at things and that’s for sure. These kinds of things continue to run through my mind in after something happens to show me this king of thing.

Just like everyone does, I fall down and get back up dust myself off again, at times I’m not quite sure why it is that I fall. (at least not until afterward's) though if I did know why, then I would never fall at all. However like so many people I’m a work in progress and so is figuring some things that out.

One thing is for sure whenever I have trouble trying to figure something out, and am starting to come out of the “out of place” feeling something almost always seems to happen to show me that I am loved.
Loved by god or a higher source or the universe or whatever you want to call it. I know I am loved, even if I didn’t feel so by people then I would always know that a higher power loves me. The same for everyone out there, everyone is loved watched over by a higher power, it’s just that more often then not most people don’t recognize it or even realize it.

(Though if you do feel something is off for no explainable reason, it’s probably because you are going to make a quantum shift. meaning the way your conscious mind views things, the way you perceive things is getting ready to change. I know that from experience and from a friend.)

Another thing to note is that some times we focus on figuring out what the problem is when instead you should be focusing on what makes you feel good.

Anyway to continue my story here, I felt that off feeling a bit again like I’m missing something and not quite sure what or that I’m not doing something I should be doing. I can only guess to part of why I felt that way but the rest of it I have no idea.

I think maybe one reason for feeling something was wrong is because I lost a penny I carry with me everywhere. Yes I know it’s just A penny right, but not to me it’s not.

Because it was my grandfathers and since he’s no longer alive I like to keep some little things of his and I liked to carry it around on my person. I never found it but that’s not really important because what I learned from it is.

I went out for a walk, I found a penny and just smiled because it’s interesting that whenever I feel out of place the universe is always showing me in small ways that I am loved. It always wants us to have what we want.

It’s kind of like the worlds way of saying that it wants you to be happy and that whatever you want you Can and Will have, whatever, it’s yours. In a sense it’s like your a child and when you got hurt and cried to a parent they picked you up and said you would feel better soon and tried to make you feel better.

That’s just what the world seems to do for you too, in a sense anyway, for me however I really started to look at the world more that way, kind of like, everything is wanting me to get what I want.

See it is as I have always said it, the world knows who you are and what you have to offer the world of man and it is just waiting on you to finally see it for yourself and do something about.

So it is like the quote that goes something along the lines of ...”The world has need of what you have to offer it.” You are loved and it does matter if you succeed in life, and you will see that much when you open your eyes to it and see it in the little and big blessings that come to you.

Jeez if you don’t believe it, then know that I luv you and I believe in you so get out there! and Make it happen! ^_^

Sunday, April 19, 2009

Enlightenment is fully understanding something you already knew.

It’s very interesting how so many things have double meanings like say “Think out side the box” everyone knows what that means, though for me it has two meanings.
First explanation everyone knows that thinking outside the box means in a round about way, to change the way you look at things. I agree with that way of thinking, things have improved for me when I’ve done that very thing.
Now my second explanation is to close your eyes and use your mind / imagination as your only senses. So when I hear people saying that I think of both. Though I use my imagination for it, I close my eyes and picture the thing in my mind’s eye and imagine how it would be and what if anything I would have to do. That is how I do a lot by design, using my imagination / thought and of course one you never forget Action! Take action on what you want, on what you have thought.

A better explanation to that is a couple of examples I have here that keep catching my attention and holding it. First is the song. Imagine by John Lennon of The Beatles. So to better make my point, I’ll take a few parts of the song and show you what I mean.

Imagine there's no Heaven
It's easy if you try

Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do

You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one

Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can

I can imagine anything if I just try because like he says it’s easy if you try and that is my point and yeah of course I’m a dreamer : )
So you know that anything is possible if you try to imagine it, just like Napoleon Hill says -" Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve."

However I do have another example of what I mean here in a poem I wrote some years back. It’s about letting your mind take over and bringing what you want to you or taking you to what you want. It’s also a bit of Quantum Physics. It’s the knowing that even if you can’t see, feel hear, smell or touch something doesn't mean it isn’t real or at least not to me anyway. Though I knew that concept before I fully understood what it was that I knew, which is to me enlightenment!

Well my poem here is like watching the movie The Matrix. You can have anything you want but you just have to understand that it’s not really real anyway, well take it anyway you want, but for me I feel it’s both a bit scary to think of it that way but it’s also easier at the same time to believe it, now then take the part where Neo stands there and watches as all the guns and other stuff he could need, stop beside him. Very interesting. So think of this poem of mine the same way and think of things in life in the terms of your mind and imagination.
Though in a sense it’s kind of about which pill you choose ^_^

~Hall of dreams ~

I'm walking through a foggy hall of dreams
To my right sits a table
Set with all my favorite treats

To my left is a hugh
Light house
With waves crushing ashore

They are sea gulls everywhere
Crowding the beach
Picking at anything that looks like food

In front of me is a monstrous
With long cobweb filled halls,

A winding staircase and a scattering
Of secret rooms
Hidden amongst the walls

I see a huge fireplace and a chandler,
Over the dining room table
As I continue to roam

And from nowhere it seems
Comes the cute puppy
I always wanted to own

His eyes are so big and brown
As he darts through
My hands and legs

Tickling my shin and calf
Then over he rolls
As he demands a good belly rub,

And down I reach to do so.
But before I can
He disappears

Wanted to take him home
But got denied
Like everything else seems to do here

Not everything I dream
Rushes past to fast
Some slow just enough to see

As go on I catch beautiful glimpses
Of some of them
And then I see the sight

I had feared thought I wouldn't see

Your standing there waiting for me

Where you’ve been all along

And you beckon for me
To come stand by your side
We greet with the softest kiss

You smile take my hand
And say it's been
Far to long you know?

I've been waiting you here, you say
But I knew you'd come
And you confess your love to me

We watch the sun setting
And never before
Has it been so perfect or slow

The suns golden and red rays
Play across your face
And change the color of your hair

When the sun has finally set
You can still see the colors
So vividly fade away

The pinks, reds and purples
As they slowly disappear
Oh what a beautiful day

I still see the light caught in your eyes
Of the sunset like it's trapped in glue

I know I'm only here in mind
Not in body
But I can't leave ...I can't leave you

I can bring my body here
If I believe hard enough
And you know that I am right

I've always held you in my heart
And in my dreams
and I dream this dream every night....

~ Nia

My key point here is actually the end of the poem.

“ I know I'm only here in mind
Not in body”

Meaning that if you can think it is so in your mind. It can be in body as well. It also relates to the fact that we can live our lives by design instead of by default like we seem to end up doing. Think about the things you want in your life not the things you don’t want!
Realize that you can live your life just how you want to live it and you don't have take it as it comes to you, and living my life just how I want to and not waiting to see what it will be like, to me is the best thing I have ever heard of. So try you might just enjoy.

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Living by default or on purpose.

A lot been running through my mind here lately and especially right now so I have to put this out there and get it out of my head, though it wont be out of my mind because there it will stay to grow and change until it has become for me just what it needs to be.

So I've thought this one for a while now and I know that this is the time to put it out there because I now fully understand it myself so ...hehehe it makes it all that much easier for me. Plus how would it be if I didn't fully understand myself what I am trying to say?

Wouldn't be to cool. Hehe. Okay so I will just dig right in here. I've said and felt and thought for a while now that absolutely everything is possible. 1) You just have to believe in it and in yourself. 2) you have to have to unshakable faith, confidence and belief. Belief that it is so and total belief in yourself, that what you say is FACT. Sound like a lot to take on? Hmm maybe ...then again I don't think so at least not for me it isn't. Because I feel that I have been living up to this. Only I have just now got to feeling it and believing it now so.

What that means is letting go of all of your normal senses as they are and as you know them. Smell, hearing, taste, tough and sight, and basically just using your mind and imagination as your only senses and relay on those alone.

So in other words what I'm saying is this. Whatever you picture in your mind (whatever you imagine) you can and will bring into your hands to hold for your normal senses to see, feel, and smell. Or whatever you want.

So what that also means that you will be living your life by design and no longer will you be living your life simply by default anymore. It means that everything is in your hands alone. Or should I said in your head and heart. Care to try?

Well I'm doing this by a different means. I am writing out my life story right now instead of doing it years from now like others would do after it has all happened and they can tell about it. Instead I am putting everything I want into it and I'm living my life right now the way I want it to be tomorrow, only I'm doing it today instead.
I'm being the person I want to be tomorrow, but like I said I'm doing it today. Get the idea now.

Now here's the part that I still find myself wanting to run from. Why? Because I know it's all true and my old disbelieving self wants to fight not to believe what it knows is the truth and I feel that that's why most people don't do this. We can live our lives by design, putting into it whatever we want and being certain that those things are what we want to be putting in it.
An example of that is seeing something you want, and I do mean something really big that your not sure you will really have it but going ahead anyway.

The only thing here is that it must be something that you really want with all of your heart, now just say I want that and believe that you will have it. Unbelievable right. That's because your normal senses are to scared to believe it could be possible and you can prove it so by not even trying to make it possible.

Well I know someone personally who is doing wanting something that we both know that others think is impossible to have. I will not say who it is just that the person saw a singer and wants to meet that singer in person and even bigger then that wants to date the singer! And also believes with all of their heart that it can and will be so. 'N' I say WOW! Of course the thing is ...hehe I take a bit of credit for that one, because when I saw the singer I knew that person would like the singer too.

So I just showed the singers music video to that person and let the rest just be, and actually to my amazement it's bigger then I ever thought it would be.
Now I'm bad because I keep telling that person to just believe and to use the secret and I keep empowering and encouraging that person and now somehow I feel that I can fly on that feeling and belief that both that person and myself have. Plus I'm also taking my que from that person and fully letting go with my normal senses and believing like that person does.

Though like I said I feel that we are normally scared to let go with our normal senses and live life by our own design and not by default always wondering what's going to happen next. Think about it, did you ever think that you could live your life that way?

That means not wondering what's going to happen next and/or not knowing just what the future hold will for you. Because you will know, because you will have planed it all out to the tee. What that also means is habits will change and also you will be releasing limiting beliefs that you hold until you can believe that everything you want in your life to happen will indeed happen for you and you will no longer believe that anything is impossible. You will know that absolutely EVERYTHING is possible!

Now as I am finishing up writing this I have let go of another limiting belief and I have done it because 1) I am writing and that IS my strong point.
It always helps me release anything I need to work through.
And 2) because as I put the words on the screen I can see just how easy it all really is.
And 3) I am going with what I want and I'm no longer second guessing anything.
I'm just being sure now.

So yep this is the change I have felt in the air and it was for myself and that other person that I felt it for.

Though I keep seeing myself apart from most of everyone who is close to me...because even though they are close to me and I'm watching them I still feel like I am a world apart because of how I see, feel and believe things to be.

Also even though I do need a refill {for my glass right now;) } my glass is still half full, in a manner of speaking of course lol!
To bad those close to me, either have half empty glasses (or even worse yet completely empty glasses!)

I'm all hands off on that one, I know that I can not help them because they will have to do it themselves just like I did. No matter how I want to help I know I need to let it go for that is just the way of things.

Well that's it for now but I will return to this subject again since I still have more to say on the subject but I'll close for now.

Finding yourself while finding a much needed spiritual connection

Interesting how so many people are so unhappy with life. I've seen celebrity's so unhappy and like someone said an article I just read their life looks prefect from the outside but what I believe that most people are lacking in their life isn't just fulfillment and purpose it's also about having a spiritual connection with our higher self and with the source.

Without this connection of which I speak no matter how much you may have it might not seem like a whole lot unless you have connected with yourself on a deeper level and found that same connection with the source. Otherwise the alternative is keep on living your life the same way you have been feeling so unhappy looking for a fix to the inner problem.

All I can say to that is love yourself enough to search out what you've been searching for all of this time for that is just what you have been doing rather you know it or not. Because no matter how good or bad life might seem it all comes to the same thing in the end, a spiritual connection, I felt lost without having one myself for years and finally found out that it was what I had been looking for all along.
It for me was one the only things that brought me inner clam and total peace.

So the next time you find yourself up set for seemingly no reason and I can tell you that there really is a reason for it, look inward and ask yourself...what do I need? What am I missing? What am I searching for? and you will be given an answer, though it wont be in the way you are expecting it to come in.

For that I can only say that it will come in the form that you need it most, because that's the way it always works and that is the way I have come to know and understand these kinds of things, because that is how things come to me. So trust that it will come to when and how you need it most. Just the same as it always does for me and the more trust I put into things like these the more I get back and HAVE a reason to keep on trusting.

So just remember that when things seem crazy it's for a very reason and it's usually because your inner world is out of place and it needs the understanding you need to give it, but if you do not have that kind of understanding then that is just what you are searching to find and that is way things are crazy and that right there is why you need a spiritual connection.

May you always be shown the way to find what you are looking for.

Much love and peace to you always.

Sunday, March 15, 2009

Living in the moment. Calm grounding effect

Life is and always will be right here right now in this very moment and in none other.
Which of course we all know so very well because happened yesterday or the day before or a year ago was only then and is something that hopefully we learned from and gone now not to return and tomorrow...well it will take care of it self. So therefore all we have is the here and now this moment and really that is what I like I like best of all because I am happy right here right now and I have to say that if it was to be my very last moment I know that it will have been my best moment in time yet because I am happy and content in it and that above all is what’s most important.
To make every moment of every day your very best just by choosing to make it so and being happy in it and so I am.

However that being said. I may by be content and happy but I still want more then that and I know that’s fine and only normal cause while I am happy because my life as I believe it to be is on track and I am working towards my dreams and goals step by step and living in the moment and seeing the sights along the way also, but I still have a long way yet to go to get everything I want and have set up goals to get and they will all come in time and some are still ahead.

I know when I think about it all that everything is working out right because I told someone what I wanted, I put it down in writing and when I did so something happened at that time. I said Whoa I can actually feel that I will be there where I want to be doing what I want to do when I want to do it and at the time I said I would be doing that. And what happened is that I set things into play because I had a goal that I set for myself to get and go after and ever since then I knew that I would get it without a doubt in my mind because I just felt so sure it was a gut instinct told me so and on top of that I have been working towards it ever since and when I take time out of the daily happenings I see how far I have come from that spot in time to where I am now and how much closer I am towards the getting/having of that goal and it just proves that I was right.

So it just adds to my certainly and sureness of things working out for my highest good. But at the same time it also adds to my calm state of mind that I use to have a problem achieving because I use to worry about things all time and when I say all the time I do mean ALL THE TIME.
But not anymore because I know now that 1) everything happens for a reason and that it’s always for our highest good even it can not be seen at first when looking it’s easier to see. And I know that 2) worrying isn’t going to help anything and 3) most important of all is one of my now favorite things to say is that life never gives us more then we can handle at one time and if it is given us then that means we now have what it takes to handle it and that in itself brings me no end of sureness and calmness as well.

Plus living for the moment and no other, grounds me just the way I need to be grounded because I know as I have heard it said that “Every moment is a gift if we are present in it” and my favorite of all is “Magic is created in the moment”. And true too because the more I feel and believe it seems to be the more true it becomes and I just love that.

But what I am driving at is that when I get more of my goals accomplished in time I will look back at times like this and say I just always knew I where I would be and what I would be doing and what I could accomplish and I will probably be saying that I knew that living in the moment for the moment and stopping along the way to “smell the roses” was one of the best things I could ever do.

Though more on that point is this the reason why I am content is that I know that what I need is in this moment and that I am where I am suppose to be doing what I am suppose to be doing. Now see I use to always everything right now now NOW and not do much of the work that needs to be put into it I just wanted it, but it never got me any where until I learned that I needed to be learning more and opening myself up to changes and learning experiencing new things situations and meeting the right people. So with that clearly in mind I seem to keep meeting the right people all the time and every situation I face has something wonderful in it, so that I know I am at the right place at the right time doing the right things and meeting the right people learning the right things and experiencing right things etc etc well anyhow you get what I’m talking about so it serves to make me content with the Here and now so that I am always looking forward to the experiences and what I can learn from them and anyone and everyone at any given time and as I face anything now adays I always ask myself what is this teaching me? What do I have to learn from this? Or what do I have to learn from this person? I always those terms about everything and everyone and I know that it’s right that I should look at things that way because it keeps me thus grounded and calm to know that what I am doing right now is exactly what I need to be doing and that it is good for me and for my bigger picture, so when I look back I will see how far I’ve come and know with certainty that IT REALLY WAS what I needed and it’s just another little step towards my whole bigger picture/dream to being completed.

It’s really very exciting when I think about it and it gave me another few of my own words to make into a new quote of my own again “Whatever is in my head and heart I will hold in my hand(s)”

So I have come a long long ways and though I’ve maybe still a long ways to go it doesn’t really seem that far anymore because what really matters is the moment that’s right here right now and I know that I will do what I want most to do and will be where I want to be because I will be living in the moment so I will never go wrong there and I will do my very best to always stay thus grounded and that it in self will see me content.

Cheers and all the love and joy I am feeling ...Right here Right now ^_^

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Self-Love And Acceptance go hand in hand

I love and accept you now and forever for all that you are, for every big and little thing that you are and for all that you stand for.
I love you inside and out, for all of your strength's and weaknesses, foresight's and short comings and for all the beauty I see in you.

Who would you say the words above to? I would say those words to only those who are closest to me and to another in whom I have come to know and love fully. The person I see in the mirror everyday I see the strengths beauty and foresight that I had never until now actually allowed myself to see and can do so now because I have let go of everything that I had chained myself down with and accepted myself as I am in completeness.

And I have found that self-love and acceptance go hand in hand. Finding both of those can for a good many people a long road to that state of total self-love and acceptance, which can take years or worse yet some may never get it at all in their life time which is very sad because finding both within is a wonderful thing.

There are to be sure many keys to finding total self-love and acceptance but I don’t want everyone to be reading for a very long time so I will go through it in short from my point of view and personal experience as I achieved both in 2008 and moved forward more confidently since then.

So when asked if it’s a long road or not my answer is Yes it can be a long road but not so long because I have achieved that much and I believe that every single hardship I’ve had to endure was leading up to this and to a great many other things as besides that are yet to come, but as I’ve said a good many times before (and will continue to say) I feel that every hardship that everyone has had to endure was only meant to be a preparation for what is to come ahead of us in life, and for me those lessons rather they be hard learned or not, were in themselves well learned and I can now fully appreciate them for what they were and I am glad that I went through them because they made me who I am today and I trade those lessons for anything.

Though needless to say I have been through a lot of personal growth and development in the last couple of years and it has lead me to not believe in things that happen to us OR around us as being a coincide but instead only a learning experience, so therefore it is something that was meant to be and simply because I feel that things happen for a reason and that reason being nine times our ten for our highest good rather or not we believe and/or feel them to be so at the time but I know that is just what they are and knowing that I know too that whatever hardships you have to face you face them because you have something to learn and/or because you were not paying attention to what your intuition was telling you so it become necessary for a harsh wake up-call in order for your head AND yourself to listen to what your heart was trying to tell you, however in some cases like my own I’ve found it wasn’t such a bad thing after because there was a lot to be learned from experiences like those and then let them go because they are in the past now.

I feel that one of the reasons why we don’t accept and love ourselves in the first place is because we’ve come to putting ourselves down as much as those people in our life that put us down until we feel that we are less then we actually are and then somewhere along the way we start seeing ourselves as if from there eyes but it’s all a lot different when we start facing ourselves for all that we really are and it changes everything once you start doing that and when face myself and my weaknesses I started slowly to find self acceptance and I just kept facing my weaknesses (like indecisiveness) as they came to me and acknowledging them even though I didn’t like that I had weaknesses even though everyone does I just felt that I was less then I wanted to be because of some weaknesses, but it was as I said different this time because instead of trying cover it over and pretending that it wasn’t there, I started to explore them with the help of my ex and learned a lot about them, but the most important thing is that I acknowledged and accepted them as being there and a part of me rather I liked it or not what I found I really needed to do was to acknowledge and accept it as a part of me and work though it until I turned it into more of a strength then a weakness.

I feel that I also started to accept and love myself when I stopped expecting a lot of myself and before when I didn’t feel that I lived up to my expectations I’d start to get mad about it and feel that in someway I’d let myself down and the thought of that would make me feel so unhappy because I didn’t want that but I didn’t know how to do anything about it nor could I find a way to fix it either, although I never stopped once to think about what kind of internal hurt it caused to hold those kinds of expectations of over myself all the time until reading something about the expectations we have of ourselves and how it different things could be if we stopped expecting a lot from ourselves, so I set out to let go of the expectations I held over myself and soon learned that when I wasn’t judging and controlling myself as well as holding expecting anything of myself that I actually more then lived up and surpassing my previous expectations of what I felt/thought that I should be and not to mention it made my life a lot more fulfilled and easier because of it.
I think that there’s many things that people do that don’t make much sense to another but for some reason we do them as a means to sort of protect ourselves from what we fear outside ourselves will hurt us and what I feel is really in itself a more hurting action but we don’t really even know it when we do it, just as I did myself at one time with hurting actions that I didn’t even know was something that would hurt me, I’d always try to control myself or try to bury away or even pretend that those things that I didn’t like about myself weren’t even there, but since upon learning differently I started acknowledging and accepting those things about myself that I didn’t like and couldn’t change, but at the same time it also meant that I needed to acknowledge all of the feelings that went with those things.

Some of those feelings were fear, shame, resentment embarrassment and others besides, I had to work through them by acknowledging that I felt them one by one while feeling and knowing that it was fine to feel that way and then release and replaced them with forgiveness understanding and love, I also started doing the same thing with any mistakes I had made by acknowledging and accepting and forgiving myself for them and then releasing and replacing them with forgiveness love and understanding again.
Knowing that the things we do can not be undone so they need to be acknowledged accepted then they need to be released and replaced forgiveness love and understanding and of course forgiveness is one of the best ways to access self-love because forgiveness frees you from things that you don’t need to hold on to and only serves to tie you down in the long run and so in that respect alone once you forgive yourself and release your feelings you’ll notice what a light & free feeling it gives you.

So in wanting to have self-love and acceptance you’ll need to take loving steps and become more loving in all area’s of your life and practice love in everything that you do,
You know the quote “You become what you think about most” those are so true words so practice being more loving, first to yourself and then to others by what you say think and do. Think love ,speak love, act love and be love in itself if you want self-love and you’ll need to let go of a lot of things along with it such as self-limiting beliefs as well as controlling behavior just as I did and not to mention being controlling of others too, though of course letting go of that will be pretty difficult at first and you will have to work at it repeatedly every single day it is well worth it and in itself letting go of the outcome of things is one of the most difficult things I’ve tried to do so far in my journey to total self-love and acceptance but I deem me to be well worth the effort, so you’ll have to decide if you feel that you’re worth it.

1) Do loving things for yourself every single day, cause if you want love you’ve got to act love, be love, give love, receive love and speak love.

2) Act lovingly to yourself, in everything you do let it be a reflection of love.

3) Speak love by being caring to yourself in what you say and do. And do the same for everyone you know and/or don’t know. Always be kind and thoughtful.

4) Be more positive. Speak positively about everything and another important thing is to see the positive in things along with thinking positively
5) Live in the moment. The past is just that and nothing more and was only meant to be learned from and the future is yet to come and can take care of it self if you take care of what’s right here right now and not worry about the things you can not change.

6) Journalize. It gets everything that’s on your mind off and it’s a great way to know what’s going on in your head and it’s talking to yourself or someone else and it gives you great insight without having to talk to another person as well as claming your mind and body and one of the best things it does is to make your mind more creative and in turn give you more creative thinking.
Boosting your focus and help you hold your train of thought better also.

7) Take care of yourself. Look out for yourself the same way you would look out for family or a good friend and do things that are for your highest good and does not make you less.

8) Eat right and exercise. One of the best ways to take good care of yourself is to eat right and exercise. As both eating right have an effect on your attitude and on your health and so does getting exercise.

9) Explore your weaknesses with the intent only to learn and find ways to turn your weaknesses into strengths while remaining non-judgmental and always be forgiving loving and accepting of yourself and your weaknesses.
So that as you explore your weaknesses in an accepting manner and with the intent to learn you’ll find ways to improve them and you will no longer feel scared or out of place with yourself and/or your weaknesses, because you’re not being controlling anymore and you’ll find yourself a better person because you’re being loving forgiving and accepting yourself just as you are. Vs the harm it does when you’re coming from a place of judging you’ll find that when...”We are not open to love when we are being judging of ourselves and others.”
“When we are to busy controlling things, ourselves and others we are not open to learning or loving and because we are trying to control everything we shut off all else as a result.”

Try being controlling not only to yourself but to others and see how that makes you feel and how it makes others feel and how they react to your controlling behavior, then try being judging another and see how that makes you feel, because it’s more like your judging yourself rather then someone else.
And remember that your external world clearly reflects your inner world if your judging on the inside or controlling on the inside it’s going to be pretty hard to be anything else on the outside,So if you want love from the external world then the place to start is making some changes with you’re internal world first, I.e if you want your world to change you need to change the way you look at it, also keep a happy song in your heart and surround yourself with love and happiness and always smile even when things are touch because things can change for the best in no time at all and a smile makes even the worst things better. For me having a cool tune running through my mind has always been cause for a happy inner world and it makes the outer world a great place as a result of it too. So keep a good tune in your head and heart and keep a little sunshine in your heart too it always works for me.

Also you might check out Clive Harvey Fox.
The Indigo-Man,Author- Finding My Gift. Creator - Life Support for the Conscious (inspirational quotes) Teacher - RENA1SSANCE QUEST - the art of self-love (using MORE or LESS as guides) Articulate speaker.

Sunday, February 8, 2009

Standing on higher ground And Not falling into the Rabbit hole again

How often have you stood on higher ground from where you once stood and started thinking about how you didn't want to fall back down into that mental rabbit hole again?

We do not stand now where we stood at one time. Some of us have slid down further then we once were and wish to climb back up to a higher ground again, while others are now higher then they ever were before and understandably do not wish to fall back down into that low place “Rabbit hole” again.

Some people have seen great highs in life while others have seen some really low “Low’s” and wish nothing more then to see the higher ground but not only to see it but to feel it and to touch and to hold it smell it and taste it and to never have to go back to the lows ever again, and isn’t that what everyone wants in life? To have a great life and to never fall into the rabbit hole again and not wanting for the success that others have? Well who wouldn’t want that life?
Yes some times we do fall down again and some times again and again but we get up again and again as well and it’s always stronger then when we fell that we get up again and having more knowledge this time around.

Though it seems that the fear, hate or resentment of being in that hole again makes others fear hate or resent others for being in that very position that you were in at one time. I’ve seen it a lot and good example of it are of someone who was once poor and no longer so but not wanting anything at all to do with people who are poor, Which is indeed that person’s choice but that person acts like people who have reached a low are poison and are going to bring them back down to their level and that not being true especially if your emotionally secure and do not emulate another situation and troubles then of course there’s no worries there.
Then of course there is the case of feeling embarrassed and/or ashamed about even having stunk to that low in the first place and though for many it wasn’t their fault in the first place they still feel bad about it and myself not with standing feel bad about stinking to a “low” but some times you have to fall hard before life has your full undivided attention and then be able to get back again better then ever and if you see it that way most of those things that happen your “falling down” are a wake up call from your life which is in it self nothing more then a blessing but most people don’t see it that way until maybe much later.
While others still continue to hate and resent themselves and to feel ashamed and disappointed and so unless they can learn to deal with what they were given and to forgive themselves and move on it still seems that they will resent others when they could and/or should be showing them compassion instead because they know what it’s like to be there.

Well needless to say there’s nothing to feel bad about even if you feel ashamed at yourself for having been down so low, many people were there before you and there’s going to be many more there after you and even though you feel disappointed in yourself about it you will have to find it in you to forgive yourself and move on from there and take the lessons you surely learned from it and put them to good use and not hold resentment against others for being where you yourself were once because “Unless you have traveled their road you’ve no right to judge another until you have been down their road”

Plus it’s easy to resent because you see a part of yourself in them and you can really hate that in yourself and in another person and also if you fear that they will bring you back down to their level then only the fear of being that again will in it self bring you back down because will you fear will inevitably give you what you fear in the end because thoughts create our world and that which get on a daily basis is thus our thoughts rather it is something we want or something we do not want, We get it because we think about it a lot but that is another thing altogether though it is still very true. Though however if you are emulating another’s troubles and situation then you’ll start having trouble in your own life seeing things from a positive perspective and you do not need to bring someone else’s trouble in your own life when all you need to do is listen to the person and offer advice if and/or when or where it is needed and leave it at that and if you find that hard to do then it is best that you practice break away points where you just tell yourself that it’s enough and every time you start thinking about it you are going to think about some more positive instead or if you want to think about then you will promise yourself to think about for only ten minutes of your time and ONLY for ten minutes and no more then that at en appointed you choose in your day.
Because I repeat you do not need to take on someone else’s trouble when you have your own life no matter how much you might be able to relate to them and no matter how much you care it’s still no good for you to emulate them.

So while I now understand better why some resent others for being where they at one time were themselves I still can not make them change nor can I get them to see if from my point of view, All that I can do is ask that people have more compassion for others because they too have been through tough times and they of all people be able to understand and of all people you’d think that they would show compassion but they are few and far in-between because they don’t care to come face to face with a reflection of what they once were.
So for those kind of people I’ll say have a little compassion when you know what it’s like to be there and do not to emulate another person when their trouble is not yours to bear just be a good person and listen to another in their time of need.

Friday, January 23, 2009

Stepping outside of your comfort Zone.- Welcome to the life that’s been waiting for You.

Stepping outside of your comfort Zone.- Welcome to the life that’s been waiting for You.

Like must of us you've probably heard people say "If you want to get something you've never had, You have to step outside your comfort Zone" I learned the real meaning of stepping outside your comfort zone for myself a few months ago now and I now know what it’s all like how it feels and some times we all need a good push the first time of stepping outside of our comfort zone but I will say to never wait to be kicked out! Though I believe that when we’re ready to step out it’s really easy and you find it to be a great thing and you will find the life out there that has been waiting for you all along.

Stepping outside of your comfort zone not only means going after what you want and doing things even though your not comfortable doing them but it also means change and a lot of it in order for this to happen, Change is a constant must and a constant thing in life for us, the people around us and for life it self .

Stepping outside your comfort zone means being vulnerable and even though it's a bit scary I found that the rewards were well worth it in the end and being vulnerable makes you feel so alive and though like myself you may want to run back to your comfort zone i.e. the place where you feel safe from harm you’ll find that it’s not bad at all and it’s not really scary at all it’s just something that you’ve never known.

It means that if you never try to doing anything different then what and all that you know now then you will never see any change in life and it will hold you back from great things happening for you in life such as doing and being more then you are currently and being who you were always meant to become.
At the same time it's like wanting change but fearing it so much that your to paralyzed to move, So you just keep going in circles never changing and never growing or learning and living all that you were meant to live in life.

That's why most of us know what we want but don't believe we can really have or deserve it.
Because even though we want it we wont most of the time take a step in a new direction to get what we want most.
That is a limited belief, because it is far easier to say ‘Well I can't get it anyway so why try’?

Wont the rewards be worth the risk? And the risk may not be that big or bad as you think it is and most times the risk is far smaller then you think or feel it is it is all just something that you are afraid to try so it keeps you stuck in place because of the fear of it and fear is the biggest and worst enemy you have.

Risk and change are something of which we all need on a regular basis and the worst part of it is that most of us know that we need that change but are to scared to take a chance and see what we get when we take that chance and being as how that means being vulnerable that also means being open to hurt and no one likes to get hurt,
It COULD also mean a little criticism and change from the normal day to day routine and even though most of us want that much needed change we also fear it at the same time, So it leaves you slipping back into the same old rut again and again not making any progress or moving forward.

When you start stepping outside your comfort zone all you really need to do is just take baby steps at first, You can take big steps if you wish though I would highly suggest small steps because your use to what your trying to do, though you may feel scared at first and very vulnerable it’s okay to be vulnerable because being vulnerable isn't that bad and life I said it makes you feel super alive and once you start to take small steps outside your comfort zone you’ll see what I mean and you’ll realize that you haven’t been really living until you start doing little things towards stepping out and you’ll see how quicker things start lining up just right in your life for you.

Being vulnerable makes you feel more alive and more in tune with everything yourself and more in tune with life and then you will begin to notice this more and more you’ll also begin to feel more joy and happiness in life and you’ll be more happy with yourself as well and life will become easier and fun and will flow almost effortlessly.

Here’s a few tips I would suggest for stepping outside your comfort zone and are many of the things I did.

1) Get a Mentor or Coach, So that you have someone to coach you in your efforts and will hold you accountable.

2) Figure out what your comfort zone and formulate a plan for stepping outside of it and take steps daily for stepping outside your comfort zone.

3) Always take small steps at first as it’s something that your not use to doing and you need to be a bit comfortable doing it. Though you will at a certain point want to push yourself a little to see how you do because after a time you be ready for it so take a chance on yourself and your inner strengths

4) Break your daily routines and try something new at least once a day.

5)If your shy like myself then try meeting a few new people and talking to them even if only a small conversation it’s worth it and it will help build confidants at the same time.

6) Also after you’ve tried doing many of the above it’s good to start pushing yourself a little and putting yourself out there more then you’re at first comfortable doing because it will in the long run help to further you and you’ll most likely find that it helps you out a lot more then you would otherwise have thought that it would.

7) Do at one thing that makes you feel uncomfortable doing and tell yourself that you are the hero and everything you need is there inside of you and that you know you can do it! And that you have what it takes!

Take a chance on life and find out what you can do and all you can be, "Life has always been there waiting for you to be ready for it, When your ready the world is open for you and waiting for you to realize that it needs you more then you would ever know and what you have to are you ready for it?.”
Take a chance on life.

Here’s to you and all that you don’t know that you are.
Blessings love and light to guide your path always.

Thursday, January 22, 2009

The World of Hope Lies within You.

The World of hope lies within you.

Every time you fall you have the strength within yourself to rise again stronger then before and in that is the knowing that every answer you seek also lays within you.

Those answers can come to you easily when you take the time to listen to what’s going on in the inside with the intention of learning.
So it is time to take a journey within and find the one person who knows you best and who always has the answers to every question that you would ask of another and in even in every troubling time you may be faced with ..the strength lays within to overcome that too.
By using the power of journalizing to find self realization and the power within you to do anything you might have at once thought that you could not do.

When trouble comes to us we often times search for something to helps us out of the trouble that we face when instead we should be looking within ourselves knowing that the one who's truly going to save us from our troubles is one person we look at in the mirror day in and day out.

Look at yourself and see the strength that lays within to do the otherwise thought impossible and to overcome times of strife and challenge.

Look within you to find the confidence and courage to take small steps outside of your comfort zone to become more then you know you could be and to rise to the challenges that life gives you as are needed so that you are better able to face them all with clarity and certainty you’ll have achieved.

Look within to find answers to daily challenges that you are faced with and you will find the answers when you open your heart to learning and listen closely to what is being said.

You are your own hero.
You make your own luck and you are the writer of the story of your life and you choose how you live your life and who stays and who leaves.

You are the only one who can create the life you want to live and you are the one who determines what you get in your life by your thoughts feelings and actions, for whatever you think about most...that you will become be it good or bad it is all up to you.

It is how you make your luck and creates your destiny and in full it creates the story that is your life as you know it.

Choose to make it the best life you can have right here, right now make it all it can be.
Dream big. Think Big. Live your life as if it was the biggest and best thing you could ever want if you had your choice from the very first breathe you ever drew in this life.

Live each day as if it was your last and choose to make it the best day of your life ever!.
For if it was your last day in life you would want it to always be your very best, so that if you were told it was to be your last you would know that you spent it was the you could have made it. Make it so.

Seek to find your purpose in life so that you always live it fulfilled

Choose love and peace. Choose to inspire encourage and empower.
Choose to be kind thoughtful loving and forgiving. To others as well as to yourself thus you should always be in every breathe.

Choose to live in the NOW Moment and choose to live your life to be the best you can be.

To all of that is the world that lays within. See it! Be it! Know it and go it!