Sunday, July 5, 2009
No matter how much or little you have, if you have happiness you have it all.
Gratitude. There is a quote that goes ““Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.- Robert Brault, Author.
For me it is about being grateful for the things you have and for the little things, only you will begin to see that when your grateful for them they really are the big things not the opposite.
Know the trick, “What you put your attention/focus on expends; well it is true because when your being thankful for those small things, it gives you more to be grateful for and those little things don’t seem so little.
At least that’s how it is for me and what it was like yesterday, so many little things served to make it feel like another one of my best days ever, a great feeling from out of nowhere.
Even a distant neighbor giving me heck about being single and having to listen to him talk about finding the right person (for like the 50th time) it didn’t bother me either even though I’ve heard it time and again from him.
Funny how people who have been divorced a couple of times have always got to give you advice for dating when they have had so much trouble in that area themselves. No way would anyone want to take advice from someone who’s had trouble in the area they are trying to give you advice in!
The thing is you want advice from someone who already has what you want, not the opposite. Things are a lot different in the dating then they were back in his day and age and you have to take your time and not rush things.
You really have to know yourself, your values and what’s most important to you and find someone whom shares your interests and passions in life. Though I have to say most importantly don’t go for just anyone at all either.
You can not just be with anyone, you want to be with Someone! Not a person who makes you comfortable and is nice to be with, but someone who is so amazing you can not even believe it.
Someone who blows your mind and takes your breathe away with the things that he/she does and amazing he/she is, the perfect someone that you might feel is only in your dreams and you might not ever find someone like that.
So do you feel like your holding out for the perfect someone and a friend or someone asks what your holding out for, tell them you are holding out for everything, and everything you will have.
Though not the point I wanted to make here, some times it’s just that people like that neighbor seem act as though I am wasting my life if I’m not married or that if I don’t have someone of my own then I can not be happy or something.
Things like that come on their own time and you can not put a time limit on it. My point here is, yesterday was the 4th of July and most everyone was watching and/or lighting off firecrackers.
I spent the day talking to and hanging out with my sister and family, neither I nor the family had the money to get fireworks and they didn’t go to a display either and neither did I.
Despite that I had one of the best days of my life, it wasn’t about the big things, even though I love the work displays and even though it’s the time of year I always look forward to.
I had fun watching Nail Diamond in TV with my mom and their were just so many things throughout the day that made it so awesome that it didn’t matter so much.
So of those little things I am grateful for yesterday, they really were the big things because it doesn’t matter how much or little you have so long as you have happiness then you really everything.
So forget the rest it doesn’t matter so long as you choose to be happy.
"In daily life we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful,but gratefulness that makes us happy. _ Unknown Author.