Why is it that we fear to do some things and not others? I feel the answer to that question is comfort zone, something's we fear to do because it is out side of our current comfort zone, while others are not.
Some times also we don't do a lot of the things we really want to do because we are scared to do them, and as a result of that we find ourselves unhappy and/or resentful of others who have more then we do.
Another direct result of not getting or going for what we want is of course having less then we deserve and lower self-esteem and lowered self confidence.
How many times have you not done something or gone for something you knew you really wanted, and all because the "what if's" kept popping up in your mind so you didn't?
Some times we wait and in some of those times we wait to long or until we feel pain and only then do we act. No one should wait until they feel pain and yet, pain is a big motivating force. You would think that everyone likes to learn the hard, no in fact it is that we want change and fear it at the same time.
Would you rather learn the hard way what happens when you don't go for what you want?
I have seen what the price to pay is when you don't take a chance, some times it is not that bad. Other times it is.
Just before I saw what listening to the what if's and not taking a chance does, had read something and it started me thinking, what if I didn't take a chance even if I was scared and really missed out, you know, I said as much to my mother, I told her that we should be more afraid of what "WONT happen" because we did not take a chance then actually being afraid of "Might" happen. I would rather say that I took a chance no matter what then to say, 'oh jeez I could have had that' it's a better way to do things then to just sit and watch things pass you by that you could have had.
I have a very good example of what missing out on something is like and I hope it goes home for you so that you wont have to learn the hard way. Okay this one is really personal difficult to write but I strongly about putting it out there for others to see so they could learn from it the way I did and am so thankful I did.
I have known someone that I would have given my right arm to date (well maybe not bu you get my meaning) so anyway I got to know him some but not really well because I was and I wasn't all that interested and I was put off by the difference in age. So even though I liked him and I knew he liked me I kind of went the other way and didn't let him know I was interested, mostly because of the age and I told myself that he wasn't really interested in me or at least that's what I told myself, confidence was a problem as well.
So let a long time pass me by and didn't do anything until it was to late, of course in that time I had met someone whom I was engaged to be married to, and of course I needed time to move on again, but by then I found out I was to late because he is taken now.
Though while having a conversation with my sister the other day it just kind of hit me what I had to learn from it, because while I knew that we can lose out on some good things if we try or take chance but this time I had something to go on. Something that I had a chance at and missed out on, and I regret having missed the chance now that I have the confidence.
So even though I know now what people mean when first hand when they go for it right and do not wait until you have this or that, and why is because you might never have the chance, and so it was with me.
Even though it happened I'm really glad it did because I learned a very valuable life lesson and I do not care how I learned it because I needed to learn it and it's going to stay with me for a long time. So whenever I see something that I want to go for and I'm a little bit scared about it, I'll think about that situation and realize just what I have could lose if I don't take a chance.
I know that this is a really big turning point in my life and I feel that I'm going to be so much more thankful for having learned that lesson later on in life.
So I hope you can learn from my example and not have to do things the hard way and remember this go for it and don't wait until you have something you "think" you need, so while you might have nothing to gain from it you might just have everything to lose, you never know.
"You don't know what you could lose if you don't go for it, you could just gain a lifetime."
Sunday, May 24, 2009
Thursday, May 21, 2009
The universe loves YOU
Has anyone ever told you just how loved you are? Not just by people, but by god or source or the universe, or whatever that is higher then ourselves that you believe in. For me it is “God’ the universe and/or the world at large.I know that I am loved and that I am watched over, here I’ll tell you what I mean in more detail.
This is something that has been running through my mind a lot the last few months and it has given me a different outlook on life, it is a more positive way of looking at things and that’s for sure. These kinds of things continue to run through my mind in after something happens to show me this king of thing.
Just like everyone does, I fall down and get back up dust myself off again, at times I’m not quite sure why it is that I fall. (at least not until afterward's) though if I did know why, then I would never fall at all. However like so many people I’m a work in progress and so is figuring some things that out.
One thing is for sure whenever I have trouble trying to figure something out, and am starting to come out of the “out of place” feeling something almost always seems to happen to show me that I am loved.
Loved by god or a higher source or the universe or whatever you want to call it. I know I am loved, even if I didn’t feel so by people then I would always know that a higher power loves me. The same for everyone out there, everyone is loved watched over by a higher power, it’s just that more often then not most people don’t recognize it or even realize it.
(Though if you do feel something is off for no explainable reason, it’s probably because you are going to make a quantum shift. meaning the way your conscious mind views things, the way you perceive things is getting ready to change. I know that from experience and from a friend.)
Another thing to note is that some times we focus on figuring out what the problem is when instead you should be focusing on what makes you feel good.
Anyway to continue my story here, I felt that off feeling a bit again like I’m missing something and not quite sure what or that I’m not doing something I should be doing. I can only guess to part of why I felt that way but the rest of it I have no idea.
I think maybe one reason for feeling something was wrong is because I lost a penny I carry with me everywhere. Yes I know it’s just A penny right, but not to me it’s not.
Because it was my grandfathers and since he’s no longer alive I like to keep some little things of his and I liked to carry it around on my person. I never found it but that’s not really important because what I learned from it is.
I went out for a walk, I found a penny and just smiled because it’s interesting that whenever I feel out of place the universe is always showing me in small ways that I am loved. It always wants us to have what we want.
It’s kind of like the worlds way of saying that it wants you to be happy and that whatever you want you Can and Will have, whatever, it’s yours. In a sense it’s like your a child and when you got hurt and cried to a parent they picked you up and said you would feel better soon and tried to make you feel better.
That’s just what the world seems to do for you too, in a sense anyway, for me however I really started to look at the world more that way, kind of like, everything is wanting me to get what I want.
See it is as I have always said it, the world knows who you are and what you have to offer the world of man and it is just waiting on you to finally see it for yourself and do something about.
So it is like the quote that goes something along the lines of ...”The world has need of what you have to offer it.” You are loved and it does matter if you succeed in life, and you will see that much when you open your eyes to it and see it in the little and big blessings that come to you.
Jeez if you don’t believe it, then know that I luv you and I believe in you so get out there! and Make it happen! ^_^
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Enlightenment is fully understanding something you already knew.
It’s very interesting how so many things have double meanings like say “Think out side the box” everyone knows what that means, though for me it has two meanings.First explanation everyone knows that thinking outside the box means in a round about way, to change the way you look at things. I agree with that way of thinking, things have improved for me when I’ve done that very thing.
Now my second explanation is to close your eyes and use your mind / imagination as your only senses. So when I hear people saying that I think of both. Though I use my imagination for it, I close my eyes and picture the thing in my mind’s eye and imagine how it would be and what if anything I would have to do. That is how I do a lot by design, using my imagination / thought and of course one you never forget Action! Take action on what you want, on what you have thought.
A better explanation to that is a couple of examples I have here that keep catching my attention and holding it. First is the song. Imagine by John Lennon of The Beatles. So to better make my point, I’ll take a few parts of the song and show you what I mean.
Imagine there's no Heaven
It's easy if you try
Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
I can imagine anything if I just try because like he says it’s easy if you try and that is my point and yeah of course I’m a dreamer : )
So you know that anything is possible if you try to imagine it, just like Napoleon Hill says -" Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve."
However I do have another example of what I mean here in a poem I wrote some years back. It’s about letting your mind take over and bringing what you want to you or taking you to what you want. It’s also a bit of Quantum Physics. It’s the knowing that even if you can’t see, feel hear, smell or touch something doesn't mean it isn’t real or at least not to me anyway. Though I knew that concept before I fully understood what it was that I knew, which is to me enlightenment!
Well my poem here is like watching the movie The Matrix. You can have anything you want but you just have to understand that it’s not really real anyway, well take it anyway you want, but for me I feel it’s both a bit scary to think of it that way but it’s also easier at the same time to believe it, now then take the part where Neo stands there and watches as all the guns and other stuff he could need, stop beside him. Very interesting. So think of this poem of mine the same way and think of things in life in the terms of your mind and imagination.
Though in a sense it’s kind of about which pill you choose ^_^
~Hall of dreams ~
I'm walking through a foggy hall of dreams
To my right sits a table
Set with all my favorite treats
To my left is a hugh
Light house
With waves crushing ashore
They are sea gulls everywhere
Crowding the beach
Picking at anything that looks like food
In front of me is a monstrous
Mansion
With long cobweb filled halls,
A winding staircase and a scattering
Of secret rooms
Hidden amongst the walls
I see a huge fireplace and a chandler,
Over the dining room table
As I continue to roam
And from nowhere it seems
Comes the cute puppy
I always wanted to own
His eyes are so big and brown
As he darts through
My hands and legs
Tickling my shin and calf
Then over he rolls
As he demands a good belly rub,
And down I reach to do so.
But before I can
He disappears
Wanted to take him home
But got denied
Like everything else seems to do here
Not everything I dream
Rushes past to fast
Some slow just enough to see
As go on I catch beautiful glimpses
Of some of them
And then I see the sight
I had feared thought I wouldn't see
You.
Your standing there waiting for me
Where you’ve been all along
And you beckon for me
To come stand by your side
We greet with the softest kiss
You smile take my hand
And say it's been
Far to long you know?
I've been waiting you here, you say
But I knew you'd come
And you confess your love to me
We watch the sun setting
And never before
Has it been so perfect or slow
The suns golden and red rays
Play across your face
And change the color of your hair
When the sun has finally set
You can still see the colors
So vividly fade away
The pinks, reds and purples
As they slowly disappear
Oh what a beautiful day
I still see the light caught in your eyes
Of the sunset like it's trapped in glue
I know I'm only here in mind
Not in body
But I can't leave ...I can't leave you
I can bring my body here
If I believe hard enough
And you know that I am right
I've always held you in my heart
And in my dreams
and I dream this dream every night....
~ Nia
My key point here is actually the end of the poem.
“ I know I'm only here in mind
Not in body”
Meaning that if you can think it is so in your mind. It can be in body as well. It also relates to the fact that we can live our lives by design instead of by default like we seem to end up doing. Think about the things you want in your life not the things you don’t want!
Realize that you can live your life just how you want to live it and you don't have take it as it comes to you, and living my life just how I want to and not waiting to see what it will be like, to me is the best thing I have ever heard of. So try you might just enjoy.
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Living by default or on purpose.
A lot been running through my mind here lately and especially right now so I have to put this out there and get it out of my head, though it wont be out of my mind because there it will stay to grow and change until it has become for me just what it needs to be.
So I've thought this one for a while now and I know that this is the time to put it out there because I now fully understand it myself so ...hehehe it makes it all that much easier for me. Plus how would it be if I didn't fully understand myself what I am trying to say?
Wouldn't be to cool. Hehe. Okay so I will just dig right in here. I've said and felt and thought for a while now that absolutely everything is possible. 1) You just have to believe in it and in yourself. 2) you have to have to unshakable faith, confidence and belief. Belief that it is so and total belief in yourself, that what you say is FACT. Sound like a lot to take on? Hmm maybe ...then again I don't think so at least not for me it isn't. Because I feel that I have been living up to this. Only I have just now got to feeling it and believing it now so.
What that means is letting go of all of your normal senses as they are and as you know them. Smell, hearing, taste, tough and sight, and basically just using your mind and imagination as your only senses and relay on those alone.
So in other words what I'm saying is this. Whatever you picture in your mind (whatever you imagine) you can and will bring into your hands to hold for your normal senses to see, feel, and smell. Or whatever you want.
So what that also means that you will be living your life by design and no longer will you be living your life simply by default anymore. It means that everything is in your hands alone. Or should I said in your head and heart. Care to try?
Well I'm doing this by a different means. I am writing out my life story right now instead of doing it years from now like others would do after it has all happened and they can tell about it. Instead I am putting everything I want into it and I'm living my life right now the way I want it to be tomorrow, only I'm doing it today instead.
I'm being the person I want to be tomorrow, but like I said I'm doing it today. Get the idea now.
Now here's the part that I still find myself wanting to run from. Why? Because I know it's all true and my old disbelieving self wants to fight not to believe what it knows is the truth and I feel that that's why most people don't do this. We can live our lives by design, putting into it whatever we want and being certain that those things are what we want to be putting in it.
An example of that is seeing something you want, and I do mean something really big that your not sure you will really have it but going ahead anyway.
The only thing here is that it must be something that you really want with all of your heart, now just say I want that and believe that you will have it. Unbelievable right. That's because your normal senses are to scared to believe it could be possible and you can prove it so by not even trying to make it possible.
Well I know someone personally who is doing wanting something that we both know that others think is impossible to have. I will not say who it is just that the person saw a singer and wants to meet that singer in person and even bigger then that wants to date the singer! And also believes with all of their heart that it can and will be so. 'N' I say WOW! Of course the thing is ...hehe I take a bit of credit for that one, because when I saw the singer I knew that person would like the singer too.
So I just showed the singers music video to that person and let the rest just be, and actually to my amazement it's bigger then I ever thought it would be.
Now I'm bad because I keep telling that person to just believe and to use the secret and I keep empowering and encouraging that person and now somehow I feel that I can fly on that feeling and belief that both that person and myself have. Plus I'm also taking my que from that person and fully letting go with my normal senses and believing like that person does.
Though like I said I feel that we are normally scared to let go with our normal senses and live life by our own design and not by default always wondering what's going to happen next. Think about it, did you ever think that you could live your life that way?
That means not wondering what's going to happen next and/or not knowing just what the future hold will for you. Because you will know, because you will have planed it all out to the tee. What that also means is habits will change and also you will be releasing limiting beliefs that you hold until you can believe that everything you want in your life to happen will indeed happen for you and you will no longer believe that anything is impossible. You will know that absolutely EVERYTHING is possible!
Now as I am finishing up writing this I have let go of another limiting belief and I have done it because 1) I am writing and that IS my strong point.
It always helps me release anything I need to work through.
And 2) because as I put the words on the screen I can see just how easy it all really is.
And 3) I am going with what I want and I'm no longer second guessing anything.
I'm just being sure now.
So yep this is the change I have felt in the air and it was for myself and that other person that I felt it for.
Though I keep seeing myself apart from most of everyone who is close to me...because even though they are close to me and I'm watching them I still feel like I am a world apart because of how I see, feel and believe things to be.
Also even though I do need a refill {for my glass right now;) } my glass is still half full, in a manner of speaking of course lol!
To bad those close to me, either have half empty glasses (or even worse yet completely empty glasses!)
I'm all hands off on that one, I know that I can not help them because they will have to do it themselves just like I did. No matter how I want to help I know I need to let it go for that is just the way of things.
Well that's it for now but I will return to this subject again since I still have more to say on the subject but I'll close for now.
So I've thought this one for a while now and I know that this is the time to put it out there because I now fully understand it myself so ...hehehe it makes it all that much easier for me. Plus how would it be if I didn't fully understand myself what I am trying to say?
Wouldn't be to cool. Hehe. Okay so I will just dig right in here. I've said and felt and thought for a while now that absolutely everything is possible. 1) You just have to believe in it and in yourself. 2) you have to have to unshakable faith, confidence and belief. Belief that it is so and total belief in yourself, that what you say is FACT. Sound like a lot to take on? Hmm maybe ...then again I don't think so at least not for me it isn't. Because I feel that I have been living up to this. Only I have just now got to feeling it and believing it now so.
What that means is letting go of all of your normal senses as they are and as you know them. Smell, hearing, taste, tough and sight, and basically just using your mind and imagination as your only senses and relay on those alone.
So in other words what I'm saying is this. Whatever you picture in your mind (whatever you imagine) you can and will bring into your hands to hold for your normal senses to see, feel, and smell. Or whatever you want.
So what that also means that you will be living your life by design and no longer will you be living your life simply by default anymore. It means that everything is in your hands alone. Or should I said in your head and heart. Care to try?
Well I'm doing this by a different means. I am writing out my life story right now instead of doing it years from now like others would do after it has all happened and they can tell about it. Instead I am putting everything I want into it and I'm living my life right now the way I want it to be tomorrow, only I'm doing it today instead.
I'm being the person I want to be tomorrow, but like I said I'm doing it today. Get the idea now.
Now here's the part that I still find myself wanting to run from. Why? Because I know it's all true and my old disbelieving self wants to fight not to believe what it knows is the truth and I feel that that's why most people don't do this. We can live our lives by design, putting into it whatever we want and being certain that those things are what we want to be putting in it.
An example of that is seeing something you want, and I do mean something really big that your not sure you will really have it but going ahead anyway.
The only thing here is that it must be something that you really want with all of your heart, now just say I want that and believe that you will have it. Unbelievable right. That's because your normal senses are to scared to believe it could be possible and you can prove it so by not even trying to make it possible.
Well I know someone personally who is doing wanting something that we both know that others think is impossible to have. I will not say who it is just that the person saw a singer and wants to meet that singer in person and even bigger then that wants to date the singer! And also believes with all of their heart that it can and will be so. 'N' I say WOW! Of course the thing is ...hehe I take a bit of credit for that one, because when I saw the singer I knew that person would like the singer too.
So I just showed the singers music video to that person and let the rest just be, and actually to my amazement it's bigger then I ever thought it would be.
Now I'm bad because I keep telling that person to just believe and to use the secret and I keep empowering and encouraging that person and now somehow I feel that I can fly on that feeling and belief that both that person and myself have. Plus I'm also taking my que from that person and fully letting go with my normal senses and believing like that person does.
Though like I said I feel that we are normally scared to let go with our normal senses and live life by our own design and not by default always wondering what's going to happen next. Think about it, did you ever think that you could live your life that way?
That means not wondering what's going to happen next and/or not knowing just what the future hold will for you. Because you will know, because you will have planed it all out to the tee. What that also means is habits will change and also you will be releasing limiting beliefs that you hold until you can believe that everything you want in your life to happen will indeed happen for you and you will no longer believe that anything is impossible. You will know that absolutely EVERYTHING is possible!
Now as I am finishing up writing this I have let go of another limiting belief and I have done it because 1) I am writing and that IS my strong point.
It always helps me release anything I need to work through.
And 2) because as I put the words on the screen I can see just how easy it all really is.
And 3) I am going with what I want and I'm no longer second guessing anything.
I'm just being sure now.
So yep this is the change I have felt in the air and it was for myself and that other person that I felt it for.
Though I keep seeing myself apart from most of everyone who is close to me...because even though they are close to me and I'm watching them I still feel like I am a world apart because of how I see, feel and believe things to be.
Also even though I do need a refill {for my glass right now;) } my glass is still half full, in a manner of speaking of course lol!
To bad those close to me, either have half empty glasses (or even worse yet completely empty glasses!)
I'm all hands off on that one, I know that I can not help them because they will have to do it themselves just like I did. No matter how I want to help I know I need to let it go for that is just the way of things.
Well that's it for now but I will return to this subject again since I still have more to say on the subject but I'll close for now.
Finding yourself while finding a much needed spiritual connection
Interesting how so many people are so unhappy with life. I've seen celebrity's so unhappy and like someone said an article I just read their life looks prefect from the outside but what I believe that most people are lacking in their life isn't just fulfillment and purpose it's also about having a spiritual connection with our higher self and with the source.
Without this connection of which I speak no matter how much you may have it might not seem like a whole lot unless you have connected with yourself on a deeper level and found that same connection with the source. Otherwise the alternative is keep on living your life the same way you have been feeling so unhappy looking for a fix to the inner problem.
All I can say to that is love yourself enough to search out what you've been searching for all of this time for that is just what you have been doing rather you know it or not. Because no matter how good or bad life might seem it all comes to the same thing in the end, a spiritual connection, I felt lost without having one myself for years and finally found out that it was what I had been looking for all along.
It for me was one the only things that brought me inner clam and total peace.
So the next time you find yourself up set for seemingly no reason and I can tell you that there really is a reason for it, look inward and ask yourself...what do I need? What am I missing? What am I searching for? and you will be given an answer, though it wont be in the way you are expecting it to come in.
For that I can only say that it will come in the form that you need it most, because that's the way it always works and that is the way I have come to know and understand these kinds of things, because that is how things come to me. So trust that it will come to when and how you need it most. Just the same as it always does for me and the more trust I put into things like these the more I get back and HAVE a reason to keep on trusting.
So just remember that when things seem crazy it's for a very reason and it's usually because your inner world is out of place and it needs the understanding you need to give it, but if you do not have that kind of understanding then that is just what you are searching to find and that is way things are crazy and that right there is why you need a spiritual connection.
May you always be shown the way to find what you are looking for.
Much love and peace to you always.
Without this connection of which I speak no matter how much you may have it might not seem like a whole lot unless you have connected with yourself on a deeper level and found that same connection with the source. Otherwise the alternative is keep on living your life the same way you have been feeling so unhappy looking for a fix to the inner problem.
All I can say to that is love yourself enough to search out what you've been searching for all of this time for that is just what you have been doing rather you know it or not. Because no matter how good or bad life might seem it all comes to the same thing in the end, a spiritual connection, I felt lost without having one myself for years and finally found out that it was what I had been looking for all along.
It for me was one the only things that brought me inner clam and total peace.
So the next time you find yourself up set for seemingly no reason and I can tell you that there really is a reason for it, look inward and ask yourself...what do I need? What am I missing? What am I searching for? and you will be given an answer, though it wont be in the way you are expecting it to come in.
For that I can only say that it will come in the form that you need it most, because that's the way it always works and that is the way I have come to know and understand these kinds of things, because that is how things come to me. So trust that it will come to when and how you need it most. Just the same as it always does for me and the more trust I put into things like these the more I get back and HAVE a reason to keep on trusting.
So just remember that when things seem crazy it's for a very reason and it's usually because your inner world is out of place and it needs the understanding you need to give it, but if you do not have that kind of understanding then that is just what you are searching to find and that is way things are crazy and that right there is why you need a spiritual connection.
May you always be shown the way to find what you are looking for.
Much love and peace to you always.
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Living in the moment. Calm grounding effect
Life is and always will be right here right now in this very moment and in none other.Which of course we all know so very well because happened yesterday or the day before or a year ago was only then and is something that hopefully we learned from and gone now not to return and tomorrow...well it will take care of it self. So therefore all we have is the here and now this moment and really that is what I like I like best of all because I am happy right here right now and I have to say that if it was to be my very last moment I know that it will have been my best moment in time yet because I am happy and content in it and that above all is what’s most important.
To make every moment of every day your very best just by choosing to make it so and being happy in it and so I am.
However that being said. I may by be content and happy but I still want more then that and I know that’s fine and only normal cause while I am happy because my life as I believe it to be is on track and I am working towards my dreams and goals step by step and living in the moment and seeing the sights along the way also, but I still have a long way yet to go to get everything I want and have set up goals to get and they will all come in time and some are still ahead.
I know when I think about it all that everything is working out right because I told someone what I wanted, I put it down in writing and when I did so something happened at that time. I said Whoa I can actually feel that I will be there where I want to be doing what I want to do when I want to do it and at the time I said I would be doing that. And what happened is that I set things into play because I had a goal that I set for myself to get and go after and ever since then I knew that I would get it without a doubt in my mind because I just felt so sure it was a gut instinct told me so and on top of that I have been working towards it ever since and when I take time out of the daily happenings I see how far I have come from that spot in time to where I am now and how much closer I am towards the getting/having of that goal and it just proves that I was right.
So it just adds to my certainly and sureness of things working out for my highest good. But at the same time it also adds to my calm state of mind that I use to have a problem achieving because I use to worry about things all time and when I say all the time I do mean ALL THE TIME.
But not anymore because I know now that 1) everything happens for a reason and that it’s always for our highest good even it can not be seen at first when looking it’s easier to see. And I know that 2) worrying isn’t going to help anything and 3) most important of all is one of my now favorite things to say is that life never gives us more then we can handle at one time and if it is given us then that means we now have what it takes to handle it and that in itself brings me no end of sureness and calmness as well.
Plus living for the moment and no other, grounds me just the way I need to be grounded because I know as I have heard it said that “Every moment is a gift if we are present in it” and my favorite of all is “Magic is created in the moment”. And true too because the more I feel and believe it seems to be the more true it becomes and I just love that.
But what I am driving at is that when I get more of my goals accomplished in time I will look back at times like this and say I just always knew I where I would be and what I would be doing and what I could accomplish and I will probably be saying that I knew that living in the moment for the moment and stopping along the way to “smell the roses” was one of the best things I could ever do.
Though more on that point is this the reason why I am content is that I know that what I need is in this moment and that I am where I am suppose to be doing what I am suppose to be doing. Now see I use to always everything right now now NOW and not do much of the work that needs to be put into it I just wanted it, but it never got me any where until I learned that I needed to be learning more and opening myself up to changes and learning experiencing new things situations and meeting the right people. So with that clearly in mind I seem to keep meeting the right people all the time and every situation I face has something wonderful in it, so that I know I am at the right place at the right time doing the right things and meeting the right people learning the right things and experiencing right things etc etc well anyhow you get what I’m talking about so it serves to make me content with the Here and now so that I am always looking forward to the experiences and what I can learn from them and anyone and everyone at any given time and as I face anything now adays I always ask myself what is this teaching me? What do I have to learn from this? Or what do I have to learn from this person? I always those terms about everything and everyone and I know that it’s right that I should look at things that way because it keeps me thus grounded and calm to know that what I am doing right now is exactly what I need to be doing and that it is good for me and for my bigger picture, so when I look back I will see how far I’ve come and know with certainty that IT REALLY WAS what I needed and it’s just another little step towards my whole bigger picture/dream to being completed.
It’s really very exciting when I think about it and it gave me another few of my own words to make into a new quote of my own again “Whatever is in my head and heart I will hold in my hand(s)”
So I have come a long long ways and though I’ve maybe still a long ways to go it doesn’t really seem that far anymore because what really matters is the moment that’s right here right now and I know that I will do what I want most to do and will be where I want to be because I will be living in the moment so I will never go wrong there and I will do my very best to always stay thus grounded and that it in self will see me content.
Cheers and all the love and joy I am feeling ...Right here Right now ^_^
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Self-Love And Acceptance go hand in hand
I love and accept you now and forever for all that you are, for every big and little thing that you are and for all that you stand for.
I love you inside and out, for all of your strength's and weaknesses, foresight's and short comings and for all the beauty I see in you.
Who would you say the words above to? I would say those words to only those who are closest to me and to another in whom I have come to know and love fully. The person I see in the mirror everyday I see the strengths beauty and foresight that I had never until now actually allowed myself to see and can do so now because I have let go of everything that I had chained myself down with and accepted myself as I am in completeness.
And I have found that self-love and acceptance go hand in hand. Finding both of those can for a good many people a long road to that state of total self-love and acceptance, which can take years or worse yet some may never get it at all in their life time which is very sad because finding both within is a wonderful thing.
There are to be sure many keys to finding total self-love and acceptance but I don’t want everyone to be reading for a very long time so I will go through it in short from my point of view and personal experience as I achieved both in 2008 and moved forward more confidently since then.
So when asked if it’s a long road or not my answer is Yes it can be a long road but not so long because I have achieved that much and I believe that every single hardship I’ve had to endure was leading up to this and to a great many other things as besides that are yet to come, but as I’ve said a good many times before (and will continue to say) I feel that every hardship that everyone has had to endure was only meant to be a preparation for what is to come ahead of us in life, and for me those lessons rather they be hard learned or not, were in themselves well learned and I can now fully appreciate them for what they were and I am glad that I went through them because they made me who I am today and I trade those lessons for anything.
Though needless to say I have been through a lot of personal growth and development in the last couple of years and it has lead me to not believe in things that happen to us OR around us as being a coincide but instead only a learning experience, so therefore it is something that was meant to be and simply because I feel that things happen for a reason and that reason being nine times our ten for our highest good rather or not we believe and/or feel them to be so at the time but I know that is just what they are and knowing that I know too that whatever hardships you have to face you face them because you have something to learn and/or because you were not paying attention to what your intuition was telling you so it become necessary for a harsh wake up-call in order for your head AND yourself to listen to what your heart was trying to tell you, however in some cases like my own I’ve found it wasn’t such a bad thing after because there was a lot to be learned from experiences like those and then let them go because they are in the past now.
I feel that one of the reasons why we don’t accept and love ourselves in the first place is because we’ve come to putting ourselves down as much as those people in our life that put us down until we feel that we are less then we actually are and then somewhere along the way we start seeing ourselves as if from there eyes but it’s all a lot different when we start facing ourselves for all that we really are and it changes everything once you start doing that and when face myself and my weaknesses I started slowly to find self acceptance and I just kept facing my weaknesses (like indecisiveness) as they came to me and acknowledging them even though I didn’t like that I had weaknesses even though everyone does I just felt that I was less then I wanted to be because of some weaknesses, but it was as I said different this time because instead of trying cover it over and pretending that it wasn’t there, I started to explore them with the help of my ex and learned a lot about them, but the most important thing is that I acknowledged and accepted them as being there and a part of me rather I liked it or not what I found I really needed to do was to acknowledge and accept it as a part of me and work though it until I turned it into more of a strength then a weakness.
I feel that I also started to accept and love myself when I stopped expecting a lot of myself and before when I didn’t feel that I lived up to my expectations I’d start to get mad about it and feel that in someway I’d let myself down and the thought of that would make me feel so unhappy because I didn’t want that but I didn’t know how to do anything about it nor could I find a way to fix it either, although I never stopped once to think about what kind of internal hurt it caused to hold those kinds of expectations of over myself all the time until reading something about the expectations we have of ourselves and how it different things could be if we stopped expecting a lot from ourselves, so I set out to let go of the expectations I held over myself and soon learned that when I wasn’t judging and controlling myself as well as holding expecting anything of myself that I actually more then lived up and surpassing my previous expectations of what I felt/thought that I should be and not to mention it made my life a lot more fulfilled and easier because of it.
I think that there’s many things that people do that don’t make much sense to another but for some reason we do them as a means to sort of protect ourselves from what we fear outside ourselves will hurt us and what I feel is really in itself a more hurting action but we don’t really even know it when we do it, just as I did myself at one time with hurting actions that I didn’t even know was something that would hurt me, I’d always try to control myself or try to bury away or even pretend that those things that I didn’t like about myself weren’t even there, but since upon learning differently I started acknowledging and accepting those things about myself that I didn’t like and couldn’t change, but at the same time it also meant that I needed to acknowledge all of the feelings that went with those things.
Some of those feelings were fear, shame, resentment embarrassment and others besides, I had to work through them by acknowledging that I felt them one by one while feeling and knowing that it was fine to feel that way and then release and replaced them with forgiveness understanding and love, I also started doing the same thing with any mistakes I had made by acknowledging and accepting and forgiving myself for them and then releasing and replacing them with forgiveness love and understanding again.
Knowing that the things we do can not be undone so they need to be acknowledged accepted then they need to be released and replaced forgiveness love and understanding and of course forgiveness is one of the best ways to access self-love because forgiveness frees you from things that you don’t need to hold on to and only serves to tie you down in the long run and so in that respect alone once you forgive yourself and release your feelings you’ll notice what a light & free feeling it gives you.
So in wanting to have self-love and acceptance you’ll need to take loving steps and become more loving in all area’s of your life and practice love in everything that you do,
You know the quote “You become what you think about most” those are so true words so practice being more loving, first to yourself and then to others by what you say think and do. Think love ,speak love, act love and be love in itself if you want self-love and you’ll need to let go of a lot of things along with it such as self-limiting beliefs as well as controlling behavior just as I did and not to mention being controlling of others too, though of course letting go of that will be pretty difficult at first and you will have to work at it repeatedly every single day it is well worth it and in itself letting go of the outcome of things is one of the most difficult things I’ve tried to do so far in my journey to total self-love and acceptance but I deem me to be well worth the effort, so you’ll have to decide if you feel that you’re worth it.
1) Do loving things for yourself every single day, cause if you want love you’ve got to act love, be love, give love, receive love and speak love.
2) Act lovingly to yourself, in everything you do let it be a reflection of love.
3) Speak love by being caring to yourself in what you say and do. And do the same for everyone you know and/or don’t know. Always be kind and thoughtful.
4) Be more positive. Speak positively about everything and another important thing is to see the positive in things along with thinking positively
5) Live in the moment. The past is just that and nothing more and was only meant to be learned from and the future is yet to come and can take care of it self if you take care of what’s right here right now and not worry about the things you can not change.
6) Journalize. It gets everything that’s on your mind off and it’s a great way to know what’s going on in your head and it’s talking to yourself or someone else and it gives you great insight without having to talk to another person as well as claming your mind and body and one of the best things it does is to make your mind more creative and in turn give you more creative thinking.
Boosting your focus and help you hold your train of thought better also.
7) Take care of yourself. Look out for yourself the same way you would look out for family or a good friend and do things that are for your highest good and does not make you less.
8) Eat right and exercise. One of the best ways to take good care of yourself is to eat right and exercise. As both eating right have an effect on your attitude and on your health and so does getting exercise.
9) Explore your weaknesses with the intent only to learn and find ways to turn your weaknesses into strengths while remaining non-judgmental and always be forgiving loving and accepting of yourself and your weaknesses.
So that as you explore your weaknesses in an accepting manner and with the intent to learn you’ll find ways to improve them and you will no longer feel scared or out of place with yourself and/or your weaknesses, because you’re not being controlling anymore and you’ll find yourself a better person because you’re being loving forgiving and accepting yourself just as you are. Vs the harm it does when you’re coming from a place of judging you’ll find that when...”We are not open to love when we are being judging of ourselves and others.”
“When we are to busy controlling things, ourselves and others we are not open to learning or loving and because we are trying to control everything we shut off all else as a result.”
Try being controlling not only to yourself but to others and see how that makes you feel and how it makes others feel and how they react to your controlling behavior, then try being judging another and see how that makes you feel, because it’s more like your judging yourself rather then someone else.
And remember that your external world clearly reflects your inner world if your judging on the inside or controlling on the inside it’s going to be pretty hard to be anything else on the outside,So if you want love from the external world then the place to start is making some changes with you’re internal world first, I.e if you want your world to change you need to change the way you look at it, also keep a happy song in your heart and surround yourself with love and happiness and always smile even when things are touch because things can change for the best in no time at all and a smile makes even the worst things better. For me having a cool tune running through my mind has always been cause for a happy inner world and it makes the outer world a great place as a result of it too. So keep a good tune in your head and heart and keep a little sunshine in your heart too it always works for me.
Also you might check out Clive Harvey Fox. The Indigo-Man,Author- Finding My Gift. Creator - Life Support for the Conscious (inspirational quotes) Teacher - RENA1SSANCE QUEST - the art of self-love (using MORE or LESS as guides) Articulate speaker.
http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/group.php?gid=50879971145
I love you inside and out, for all of your strength's and weaknesses, foresight's and short comings and for all the beauty I see in you.
Who would you say the words above to? I would say those words to only those who are closest to me and to another in whom I have come to know and love fully. The person I see in the mirror everyday I see the strengths beauty and foresight that I had never until now actually allowed myself to see and can do so now because I have let go of everything that I had chained myself down with and accepted myself as I am in completeness.
And I have found that self-love and acceptance go hand in hand. Finding both of those can for a good many people a long road to that state of total self-love and acceptance, which can take years or worse yet some may never get it at all in their life time which is very sad because finding both within is a wonderful thing.
There are to be sure many keys to finding total self-love and acceptance but I don’t want everyone to be reading for a very long time so I will go through it in short from my point of view and personal experience as I achieved both in 2008 and moved forward more confidently since then.
So when asked if it’s a long road or not my answer is Yes it can be a long road but not so long because I have achieved that much and I believe that every single hardship I’ve had to endure was leading up to this and to a great many other things as besides that are yet to come, but as I’ve said a good many times before (and will continue to say) I feel that every hardship that everyone has had to endure was only meant to be a preparation for what is to come ahead of us in life, and for me those lessons rather they be hard learned or not, were in themselves well learned and I can now fully appreciate them for what they were and I am glad that I went through them because they made me who I am today and I trade those lessons for anything.
Though needless to say I have been through a lot of personal growth and development in the last couple of years and it has lead me to not believe in things that happen to us OR around us as being a coincide but instead only a learning experience, so therefore it is something that was meant to be and simply because I feel that things happen for a reason and that reason being nine times our ten for our highest good rather or not we believe and/or feel them to be so at the time but I know that is just what they are and knowing that I know too that whatever hardships you have to face you face them because you have something to learn and/or because you were not paying attention to what your intuition was telling you so it become necessary for a harsh wake up-call in order for your head AND yourself to listen to what your heart was trying to tell you, however in some cases like my own I’ve found it wasn’t such a bad thing after because there was a lot to be learned from experiences like those and then let them go because they are in the past now.
I feel that one of the reasons why we don’t accept and love ourselves in the first place is because we’ve come to putting ourselves down as much as those people in our life that put us down until we feel that we are less then we actually are and then somewhere along the way we start seeing ourselves as if from there eyes but it’s all a lot different when we start facing ourselves for all that we really are and it changes everything once you start doing that and when face myself and my weaknesses I started slowly to find self acceptance and I just kept facing my weaknesses (like indecisiveness) as they came to me and acknowledging them even though I didn’t like that I had weaknesses even though everyone does I just felt that I was less then I wanted to be because of some weaknesses, but it was as I said different this time because instead of trying cover it over and pretending that it wasn’t there, I started to explore them with the help of my ex and learned a lot about them, but the most important thing is that I acknowledged and accepted them as being there and a part of me rather I liked it or not what I found I really needed to do was to acknowledge and accept it as a part of me and work though it until I turned it into more of a strength then a weakness.
I feel that I also started to accept and love myself when I stopped expecting a lot of myself and before when I didn’t feel that I lived up to my expectations I’d start to get mad about it and feel that in someway I’d let myself down and the thought of that would make me feel so unhappy because I didn’t want that but I didn’t know how to do anything about it nor could I find a way to fix it either, although I never stopped once to think about what kind of internal hurt it caused to hold those kinds of expectations of over myself all the time until reading something about the expectations we have of ourselves and how it different things could be if we stopped expecting a lot from ourselves, so I set out to let go of the expectations I held over myself and soon learned that when I wasn’t judging and controlling myself as well as holding expecting anything of myself that I actually more then lived up and surpassing my previous expectations of what I felt/thought that I should be and not to mention it made my life a lot more fulfilled and easier because of it.
I think that there’s many things that people do that don’t make much sense to another but for some reason we do them as a means to sort of protect ourselves from what we fear outside ourselves will hurt us and what I feel is really in itself a more hurting action but we don’t really even know it when we do it, just as I did myself at one time with hurting actions that I didn’t even know was something that would hurt me, I’d always try to control myself or try to bury away or even pretend that those things that I didn’t like about myself weren’t even there, but since upon learning differently I started acknowledging and accepting those things about myself that I didn’t like and couldn’t change, but at the same time it also meant that I needed to acknowledge all of the feelings that went with those things.
Some of those feelings were fear, shame, resentment embarrassment and others besides, I had to work through them by acknowledging that I felt them one by one while feeling and knowing that it was fine to feel that way and then release and replaced them with forgiveness understanding and love, I also started doing the same thing with any mistakes I had made by acknowledging and accepting and forgiving myself for them and then releasing and replacing them with forgiveness love and understanding again.
Knowing that the things we do can not be undone so they need to be acknowledged accepted then they need to be released and replaced forgiveness love and understanding and of course forgiveness is one of the best ways to access self-love because forgiveness frees you from things that you don’t need to hold on to and only serves to tie you down in the long run and so in that respect alone once you forgive yourself and release your feelings you’ll notice what a light & free feeling it gives you.
So in wanting to have self-love and acceptance you’ll need to take loving steps and become more loving in all area’s of your life and practice love in everything that you do,
You know the quote “You become what you think about most” those are so true words so practice being more loving, first to yourself and then to others by what you say think and do. Think love ,speak love, act love and be love in itself if you want self-love and you’ll need to let go of a lot of things along with it such as self-limiting beliefs as well as controlling behavior just as I did and not to mention being controlling of others too, though of course letting go of that will be pretty difficult at first and you will have to work at it repeatedly every single day it is well worth it and in itself letting go of the outcome of things is one of the most difficult things I’ve tried to do so far in my journey to total self-love and acceptance but I deem me to be well worth the effort, so you’ll have to decide if you feel that you’re worth it.
1) Do loving things for yourself every single day, cause if you want love you’ve got to act love, be love, give love, receive love and speak love.
2) Act lovingly to yourself, in everything you do let it be a reflection of love.
3) Speak love by being caring to yourself in what you say and do. And do the same for everyone you know and/or don’t know. Always be kind and thoughtful.
4) Be more positive. Speak positively about everything and another important thing is to see the positive in things along with thinking positively
5) Live in the moment. The past is just that and nothing more and was only meant to be learned from and the future is yet to come and can take care of it self if you take care of what’s right here right now and not worry about the things you can not change.
6) Journalize. It gets everything that’s on your mind off and it’s a great way to know what’s going on in your head and it’s talking to yourself or someone else and it gives you great insight without having to talk to another person as well as claming your mind and body and one of the best things it does is to make your mind more creative and in turn give you more creative thinking.
Boosting your focus and help you hold your train of thought better also.
7) Take care of yourself. Look out for yourself the same way you would look out for family or a good friend and do things that are for your highest good and does not make you less.
8) Eat right and exercise. One of the best ways to take good care of yourself is to eat right and exercise. As both eating right have an effect on your attitude and on your health and so does getting exercise.
9) Explore your weaknesses with the intent only to learn and find ways to turn your weaknesses into strengths while remaining non-judgmental and always be forgiving loving and accepting of yourself and your weaknesses.
So that as you explore your weaknesses in an accepting manner and with the intent to learn you’ll find ways to improve them and you will no longer feel scared or out of place with yourself and/or your weaknesses, because you’re not being controlling anymore and you’ll find yourself a better person because you’re being loving forgiving and accepting yourself just as you are. Vs the harm it does when you’re coming from a place of judging you’ll find that when...”We are not open to love when we are being judging of ourselves and others.”
“When we are to busy controlling things, ourselves and others we are not open to learning or loving and because we are trying to control everything we shut off all else as a result.”
Try being controlling not only to yourself but to others and see how that makes you feel and how it makes others feel and how they react to your controlling behavior, then try being judging another and see how that makes you feel, because it’s more like your judging yourself rather then someone else.
And remember that your external world clearly reflects your inner world if your judging on the inside or controlling on the inside it’s going to be pretty hard to be anything else on the outside,So if you want love from the external world then the place to start is making some changes with you’re internal world first, I.e if you want your world to change you need to change the way you look at it, also keep a happy song in your heart and surround yourself with love and happiness and always smile even when things are touch because things can change for the best in no time at all and a smile makes even the worst things better. For me having a cool tune running through my mind has always been cause for a happy inner world and it makes the outer world a great place as a result of it too. So keep a good tune in your head and heart and keep a little sunshine in your heart too it always works for me.
Also you might check out Clive Harvey Fox. The Indigo-Man,Author- Finding My Gift. Creator - Life Support for the Conscious (inspirational quotes) Teacher - RENA1SSANCE QUEST - the art of self-love (using MORE or LESS as guides) Articulate speaker.
http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/group.php?gid=50879971145
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