Interesting how so many people are so unhappy with life. I've seen celebrity's so unhappy and like someone said an article I just read their life looks prefect from the outside but what I believe that most people are lacking in their life isn't just fulfillment and purpose it's also about having a spiritual connection with our higher self and with the source.
Without this connection of which I speak no matter how much you may have it might not seem like a whole lot unless you have connected with yourself on a deeper level and found that same connection with the source. Otherwise the alternative is keep on living your life the same way you have been feeling so unhappy looking for a fix to the inner problem.
All I can say to that is love yourself enough to search out what you've been searching for all of this time for that is just what you have been doing rather you know it or not. Because no matter how good or bad life might seem it all comes to the same thing in the end, a spiritual connection, I felt lost without having one myself for years and finally found out that it was what I had been looking for all along.
It for me was one the only things that brought me inner clam and total peace.
So the next time you find yourself up set for seemingly no reason and I can tell you that there really is a reason for it, look inward and ask yourself...what do I need? What am I missing? What am I searching for? and you will be given an answer, though it wont be in the way you are expecting it to come in.
For that I can only say that it will come in the form that you need it most, because that's the way it always works and that is the way I have come to know and understand these kinds of things, because that is how things come to me. So trust that it will come to when and how you need it most. Just the same as it always does for me and the more trust I put into things like these the more I get back and HAVE a reason to keep on trusting.
So just remember that when things seem crazy it's for a very reason and it's usually because your inner world is out of place and it needs the understanding you need to give it, but if you do not have that kind of understanding then that is just what you are searching to find and that is way things are crazy and that right there is why you need a spiritual connection.
May you always be shown the way to find what you are looking for.
Much love and peace to you always.
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Living in the moment. Calm grounding effect
Life is and always will be right here right now in this very moment and in none other.Which of course we all know so very well because happened yesterday or the day before or a year ago was only then and is something that hopefully we learned from and gone now not to return and tomorrow...well it will take care of it self. So therefore all we have is the here and now this moment and really that is what I like I like best of all because I am happy right here right now and I have to say that if it was to be my very last moment I know that it will have been my best moment in time yet because I am happy and content in it and that above all is what’s most important.
To make every moment of every day your very best just by choosing to make it so and being happy in it and so I am.
However that being said. I may by be content and happy but I still want more then that and I know that’s fine and only normal cause while I am happy because my life as I believe it to be is on track and I am working towards my dreams and goals step by step and living in the moment and seeing the sights along the way also, but I still have a long way yet to go to get everything I want and have set up goals to get and they will all come in time and some are still ahead.
I know when I think about it all that everything is working out right because I told someone what I wanted, I put it down in writing and when I did so something happened at that time. I said Whoa I can actually feel that I will be there where I want to be doing what I want to do when I want to do it and at the time I said I would be doing that. And what happened is that I set things into play because I had a goal that I set for myself to get and go after and ever since then I knew that I would get it without a doubt in my mind because I just felt so sure it was a gut instinct told me so and on top of that I have been working towards it ever since and when I take time out of the daily happenings I see how far I have come from that spot in time to where I am now and how much closer I am towards the getting/having of that goal and it just proves that I was right.
So it just adds to my certainly and sureness of things working out for my highest good. But at the same time it also adds to my calm state of mind that I use to have a problem achieving because I use to worry about things all time and when I say all the time I do mean ALL THE TIME.
But not anymore because I know now that 1) everything happens for a reason and that it’s always for our highest good even it can not be seen at first when looking it’s easier to see. And I know that 2) worrying isn’t going to help anything and 3) most important of all is one of my now favorite things to say is that life never gives us more then we can handle at one time and if it is given us then that means we now have what it takes to handle it and that in itself brings me no end of sureness and calmness as well.
Plus living for the moment and no other, grounds me just the way I need to be grounded because I know as I have heard it said that “Every moment is a gift if we are present in it” and my favorite of all is “Magic is created in the moment”. And true too because the more I feel and believe it seems to be the more true it becomes and I just love that.
But what I am driving at is that when I get more of my goals accomplished in time I will look back at times like this and say I just always knew I where I would be and what I would be doing and what I could accomplish and I will probably be saying that I knew that living in the moment for the moment and stopping along the way to “smell the roses” was one of the best things I could ever do.
Though more on that point is this the reason why I am content is that I know that what I need is in this moment and that I am where I am suppose to be doing what I am suppose to be doing. Now see I use to always everything right now now NOW and not do much of the work that needs to be put into it I just wanted it, but it never got me any where until I learned that I needed to be learning more and opening myself up to changes and learning experiencing new things situations and meeting the right people. So with that clearly in mind I seem to keep meeting the right people all the time and every situation I face has something wonderful in it, so that I know I am at the right place at the right time doing the right things and meeting the right people learning the right things and experiencing right things etc etc well anyhow you get what I’m talking about so it serves to make me content with the Here and now so that I am always looking forward to the experiences and what I can learn from them and anyone and everyone at any given time and as I face anything now adays I always ask myself what is this teaching me? What do I have to learn from this? Or what do I have to learn from this person? I always those terms about everything and everyone and I know that it’s right that I should look at things that way because it keeps me thus grounded and calm to know that what I am doing right now is exactly what I need to be doing and that it is good for me and for my bigger picture, so when I look back I will see how far I’ve come and know with certainty that IT REALLY WAS what I needed and it’s just another little step towards my whole bigger picture/dream to being completed.
It’s really very exciting when I think about it and it gave me another few of my own words to make into a new quote of my own again “Whatever is in my head and heart I will hold in my hand(s)”
So I have come a long long ways and though I’ve maybe still a long ways to go it doesn’t really seem that far anymore because what really matters is the moment that’s right here right now and I know that I will do what I want most to do and will be where I want to be because I will be living in the moment so I will never go wrong there and I will do my very best to always stay thus grounded and that it in self will see me content.
Cheers and all the love and joy I am feeling ...Right here Right now ^_^
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Self-Love And Acceptance go hand in hand
I love and accept you now and forever for all that you are, for every big and little thing that you are and for all that you stand for.
I love you inside and out, for all of your strength's and weaknesses, foresight's and short comings and for all the beauty I see in you.
Who would you say the words above to? I would say those words to only those who are closest to me and to another in whom I have come to know and love fully. The person I see in the mirror everyday I see the strengths beauty and foresight that I had never until now actually allowed myself to see and can do so now because I have let go of everything that I had chained myself down with and accepted myself as I am in completeness.
And I have found that self-love and acceptance go hand in hand. Finding both of those can for a good many people a long road to that state of total self-love and acceptance, which can take years or worse yet some may never get it at all in their life time which is very sad because finding both within is a wonderful thing.
There are to be sure many keys to finding total self-love and acceptance but I don’t want everyone to be reading for a very long time so I will go through it in short from my point of view and personal experience as I achieved both in 2008 and moved forward more confidently since then.
So when asked if it’s a long road or not my answer is Yes it can be a long road but not so long because I have achieved that much and I believe that every single hardship I’ve had to endure was leading up to this and to a great many other things as besides that are yet to come, but as I’ve said a good many times before (and will continue to say) I feel that every hardship that everyone has had to endure was only meant to be a preparation for what is to come ahead of us in life, and for me those lessons rather they be hard learned or not, were in themselves well learned and I can now fully appreciate them for what they were and I am glad that I went through them because they made me who I am today and I trade those lessons for anything.
Though needless to say I have been through a lot of personal growth and development in the last couple of years and it has lead me to not believe in things that happen to us OR around us as being a coincide but instead only a learning experience, so therefore it is something that was meant to be and simply because I feel that things happen for a reason and that reason being nine times our ten for our highest good rather or not we believe and/or feel them to be so at the time but I know that is just what they are and knowing that I know too that whatever hardships you have to face you face them because you have something to learn and/or because you were not paying attention to what your intuition was telling you so it become necessary for a harsh wake up-call in order for your head AND yourself to listen to what your heart was trying to tell you, however in some cases like my own I’ve found it wasn’t such a bad thing after because there was a lot to be learned from experiences like those and then let them go because they are in the past now.
I feel that one of the reasons why we don’t accept and love ourselves in the first place is because we’ve come to putting ourselves down as much as those people in our life that put us down until we feel that we are less then we actually are and then somewhere along the way we start seeing ourselves as if from there eyes but it’s all a lot different when we start facing ourselves for all that we really are and it changes everything once you start doing that and when face myself and my weaknesses I started slowly to find self acceptance and I just kept facing my weaknesses (like indecisiveness) as they came to me and acknowledging them even though I didn’t like that I had weaknesses even though everyone does I just felt that I was less then I wanted to be because of some weaknesses, but it was as I said different this time because instead of trying cover it over and pretending that it wasn’t there, I started to explore them with the help of my ex and learned a lot about them, but the most important thing is that I acknowledged and accepted them as being there and a part of me rather I liked it or not what I found I really needed to do was to acknowledge and accept it as a part of me and work though it until I turned it into more of a strength then a weakness.
I feel that I also started to accept and love myself when I stopped expecting a lot of myself and before when I didn’t feel that I lived up to my expectations I’d start to get mad about it and feel that in someway I’d let myself down and the thought of that would make me feel so unhappy because I didn’t want that but I didn’t know how to do anything about it nor could I find a way to fix it either, although I never stopped once to think about what kind of internal hurt it caused to hold those kinds of expectations of over myself all the time until reading something about the expectations we have of ourselves and how it different things could be if we stopped expecting a lot from ourselves, so I set out to let go of the expectations I held over myself and soon learned that when I wasn’t judging and controlling myself as well as holding expecting anything of myself that I actually more then lived up and surpassing my previous expectations of what I felt/thought that I should be and not to mention it made my life a lot more fulfilled and easier because of it.
I think that there’s many things that people do that don’t make much sense to another but for some reason we do them as a means to sort of protect ourselves from what we fear outside ourselves will hurt us and what I feel is really in itself a more hurting action but we don’t really even know it when we do it, just as I did myself at one time with hurting actions that I didn’t even know was something that would hurt me, I’d always try to control myself or try to bury away or even pretend that those things that I didn’t like about myself weren’t even there, but since upon learning differently I started acknowledging and accepting those things about myself that I didn’t like and couldn’t change, but at the same time it also meant that I needed to acknowledge all of the feelings that went with those things.
Some of those feelings were fear, shame, resentment embarrassment and others besides, I had to work through them by acknowledging that I felt them one by one while feeling and knowing that it was fine to feel that way and then release and replaced them with forgiveness understanding and love, I also started doing the same thing with any mistakes I had made by acknowledging and accepting and forgiving myself for them and then releasing and replacing them with forgiveness love and understanding again.
Knowing that the things we do can not be undone so they need to be acknowledged accepted then they need to be released and replaced forgiveness love and understanding and of course forgiveness is one of the best ways to access self-love because forgiveness frees you from things that you don’t need to hold on to and only serves to tie you down in the long run and so in that respect alone once you forgive yourself and release your feelings you’ll notice what a light & free feeling it gives you.
So in wanting to have self-love and acceptance you’ll need to take loving steps and become more loving in all area’s of your life and practice love in everything that you do,
You know the quote “You become what you think about most” those are so true words so practice being more loving, first to yourself and then to others by what you say think and do. Think love ,speak love, act love and be love in itself if you want self-love and you’ll need to let go of a lot of things along with it such as self-limiting beliefs as well as controlling behavior just as I did and not to mention being controlling of others too, though of course letting go of that will be pretty difficult at first and you will have to work at it repeatedly every single day it is well worth it and in itself letting go of the outcome of things is one of the most difficult things I’ve tried to do so far in my journey to total self-love and acceptance but I deem me to be well worth the effort, so you’ll have to decide if you feel that you’re worth it.
1) Do loving things for yourself every single day, cause if you want love you’ve got to act love, be love, give love, receive love and speak love.
2) Act lovingly to yourself, in everything you do let it be a reflection of love.
3) Speak love by being caring to yourself in what you say and do. And do the same for everyone you know and/or don’t know. Always be kind and thoughtful.
4) Be more positive. Speak positively about everything and another important thing is to see the positive in things along with thinking positively
5) Live in the moment. The past is just that and nothing more and was only meant to be learned from and the future is yet to come and can take care of it self if you take care of what’s right here right now and not worry about the things you can not change.
6) Journalize. It gets everything that’s on your mind off and it’s a great way to know what’s going on in your head and it’s talking to yourself or someone else and it gives you great insight without having to talk to another person as well as claming your mind and body and one of the best things it does is to make your mind more creative and in turn give you more creative thinking.
Boosting your focus and help you hold your train of thought better also.
7) Take care of yourself. Look out for yourself the same way you would look out for family or a good friend and do things that are for your highest good and does not make you less.
8) Eat right and exercise. One of the best ways to take good care of yourself is to eat right and exercise. As both eating right have an effect on your attitude and on your health and so does getting exercise.
9) Explore your weaknesses with the intent only to learn and find ways to turn your weaknesses into strengths while remaining non-judgmental and always be forgiving loving and accepting of yourself and your weaknesses.
So that as you explore your weaknesses in an accepting manner and with the intent to learn you’ll find ways to improve them and you will no longer feel scared or out of place with yourself and/or your weaknesses, because you’re not being controlling anymore and you’ll find yourself a better person because you’re being loving forgiving and accepting yourself just as you are. Vs the harm it does when you’re coming from a place of judging you’ll find that when...”We are not open to love when we are being judging of ourselves and others.”
“When we are to busy controlling things, ourselves and others we are not open to learning or loving and because we are trying to control everything we shut off all else as a result.”
Try being controlling not only to yourself but to others and see how that makes you feel and how it makes others feel and how they react to your controlling behavior, then try being judging another and see how that makes you feel, because it’s more like your judging yourself rather then someone else.
And remember that your external world clearly reflects your inner world if your judging on the inside or controlling on the inside it’s going to be pretty hard to be anything else on the outside,So if you want love from the external world then the place to start is making some changes with you’re internal world first, I.e if you want your world to change you need to change the way you look at it, also keep a happy song in your heart and surround yourself with love and happiness and always smile even when things are touch because things can change for the best in no time at all and a smile makes even the worst things better. For me having a cool tune running through my mind has always been cause for a happy inner world and it makes the outer world a great place as a result of it too. So keep a good tune in your head and heart and keep a little sunshine in your heart too it always works for me.
Also you might check out Clive Harvey Fox. The Indigo-Man,Author- Finding My Gift. Creator - Life Support for the Conscious (inspirational quotes) Teacher - RENA1SSANCE QUEST - the art of self-love (using MORE or LESS as guides) Articulate speaker.
http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/group.php?gid=50879971145
I love you inside and out, for all of your strength's and weaknesses, foresight's and short comings and for all the beauty I see in you.
Who would you say the words above to? I would say those words to only those who are closest to me and to another in whom I have come to know and love fully. The person I see in the mirror everyday I see the strengths beauty and foresight that I had never until now actually allowed myself to see and can do so now because I have let go of everything that I had chained myself down with and accepted myself as I am in completeness.
And I have found that self-love and acceptance go hand in hand. Finding both of those can for a good many people a long road to that state of total self-love and acceptance, which can take years or worse yet some may never get it at all in their life time which is very sad because finding both within is a wonderful thing.
There are to be sure many keys to finding total self-love and acceptance but I don’t want everyone to be reading for a very long time so I will go through it in short from my point of view and personal experience as I achieved both in 2008 and moved forward more confidently since then.
So when asked if it’s a long road or not my answer is Yes it can be a long road but not so long because I have achieved that much and I believe that every single hardship I’ve had to endure was leading up to this and to a great many other things as besides that are yet to come, but as I’ve said a good many times before (and will continue to say) I feel that every hardship that everyone has had to endure was only meant to be a preparation for what is to come ahead of us in life, and for me those lessons rather they be hard learned or not, were in themselves well learned and I can now fully appreciate them for what they were and I am glad that I went through them because they made me who I am today and I trade those lessons for anything.
Though needless to say I have been through a lot of personal growth and development in the last couple of years and it has lead me to not believe in things that happen to us OR around us as being a coincide but instead only a learning experience, so therefore it is something that was meant to be and simply because I feel that things happen for a reason and that reason being nine times our ten for our highest good rather or not we believe and/or feel them to be so at the time but I know that is just what they are and knowing that I know too that whatever hardships you have to face you face them because you have something to learn and/or because you were not paying attention to what your intuition was telling you so it become necessary for a harsh wake up-call in order for your head AND yourself to listen to what your heart was trying to tell you, however in some cases like my own I’ve found it wasn’t such a bad thing after because there was a lot to be learned from experiences like those and then let them go because they are in the past now.
I feel that one of the reasons why we don’t accept and love ourselves in the first place is because we’ve come to putting ourselves down as much as those people in our life that put us down until we feel that we are less then we actually are and then somewhere along the way we start seeing ourselves as if from there eyes but it’s all a lot different when we start facing ourselves for all that we really are and it changes everything once you start doing that and when face myself and my weaknesses I started slowly to find self acceptance and I just kept facing my weaknesses (like indecisiveness) as they came to me and acknowledging them even though I didn’t like that I had weaknesses even though everyone does I just felt that I was less then I wanted to be because of some weaknesses, but it was as I said different this time because instead of trying cover it over and pretending that it wasn’t there, I started to explore them with the help of my ex and learned a lot about them, but the most important thing is that I acknowledged and accepted them as being there and a part of me rather I liked it or not what I found I really needed to do was to acknowledge and accept it as a part of me and work though it until I turned it into more of a strength then a weakness.
I feel that I also started to accept and love myself when I stopped expecting a lot of myself and before when I didn’t feel that I lived up to my expectations I’d start to get mad about it and feel that in someway I’d let myself down and the thought of that would make me feel so unhappy because I didn’t want that but I didn’t know how to do anything about it nor could I find a way to fix it either, although I never stopped once to think about what kind of internal hurt it caused to hold those kinds of expectations of over myself all the time until reading something about the expectations we have of ourselves and how it different things could be if we stopped expecting a lot from ourselves, so I set out to let go of the expectations I held over myself and soon learned that when I wasn’t judging and controlling myself as well as holding expecting anything of myself that I actually more then lived up and surpassing my previous expectations of what I felt/thought that I should be and not to mention it made my life a lot more fulfilled and easier because of it.
I think that there’s many things that people do that don’t make much sense to another but for some reason we do them as a means to sort of protect ourselves from what we fear outside ourselves will hurt us and what I feel is really in itself a more hurting action but we don’t really even know it when we do it, just as I did myself at one time with hurting actions that I didn’t even know was something that would hurt me, I’d always try to control myself or try to bury away or even pretend that those things that I didn’t like about myself weren’t even there, but since upon learning differently I started acknowledging and accepting those things about myself that I didn’t like and couldn’t change, but at the same time it also meant that I needed to acknowledge all of the feelings that went with those things.
Some of those feelings were fear, shame, resentment embarrassment and others besides, I had to work through them by acknowledging that I felt them one by one while feeling and knowing that it was fine to feel that way and then release and replaced them with forgiveness understanding and love, I also started doing the same thing with any mistakes I had made by acknowledging and accepting and forgiving myself for them and then releasing and replacing them with forgiveness love and understanding again.
Knowing that the things we do can not be undone so they need to be acknowledged accepted then they need to be released and replaced forgiveness love and understanding and of course forgiveness is one of the best ways to access self-love because forgiveness frees you from things that you don’t need to hold on to and only serves to tie you down in the long run and so in that respect alone once you forgive yourself and release your feelings you’ll notice what a light & free feeling it gives you.
So in wanting to have self-love and acceptance you’ll need to take loving steps and become more loving in all area’s of your life and practice love in everything that you do,
You know the quote “You become what you think about most” those are so true words so practice being more loving, first to yourself and then to others by what you say think and do. Think love ,speak love, act love and be love in itself if you want self-love and you’ll need to let go of a lot of things along with it such as self-limiting beliefs as well as controlling behavior just as I did and not to mention being controlling of others too, though of course letting go of that will be pretty difficult at first and you will have to work at it repeatedly every single day it is well worth it and in itself letting go of the outcome of things is one of the most difficult things I’ve tried to do so far in my journey to total self-love and acceptance but I deem me to be well worth the effort, so you’ll have to decide if you feel that you’re worth it.
1) Do loving things for yourself every single day, cause if you want love you’ve got to act love, be love, give love, receive love and speak love.
2) Act lovingly to yourself, in everything you do let it be a reflection of love.
3) Speak love by being caring to yourself in what you say and do. And do the same for everyone you know and/or don’t know. Always be kind and thoughtful.
4) Be more positive. Speak positively about everything and another important thing is to see the positive in things along with thinking positively
5) Live in the moment. The past is just that and nothing more and was only meant to be learned from and the future is yet to come and can take care of it self if you take care of what’s right here right now and not worry about the things you can not change.
6) Journalize. It gets everything that’s on your mind off and it’s a great way to know what’s going on in your head and it’s talking to yourself or someone else and it gives you great insight without having to talk to another person as well as claming your mind and body and one of the best things it does is to make your mind more creative and in turn give you more creative thinking.
Boosting your focus and help you hold your train of thought better also.
7) Take care of yourself. Look out for yourself the same way you would look out for family or a good friend and do things that are for your highest good and does not make you less.
8) Eat right and exercise. One of the best ways to take good care of yourself is to eat right and exercise. As both eating right have an effect on your attitude and on your health and so does getting exercise.
9) Explore your weaknesses with the intent only to learn and find ways to turn your weaknesses into strengths while remaining non-judgmental and always be forgiving loving and accepting of yourself and your weaknesses.
So that as you explore your weaknesses in an accepting manner and with the intent to learn you’ll find ways to improve them and you will no longer feel scared or out of place with yourself and/or your weaknesses, because you’re not being controlling anymore and you’ll find yourself a better person because you’re being loving forgiving and accepting yourself just as you are. Vs the harm it does when you’re coming from a place of judging you’ll find that when...”We are not open to love when we are being judging of ourselves and others.”
“When we are to busy controlling things, ourselves and others we are not open to learning or loving and because we are trying to control everything we shut off all else as a result.”
Try being controlling not only to yourself but to others and see how that makes you feel and how it makes others feel and how they react to your controlling behavior, then try being judging another and see how that makes you feel, because it’s more like your judging yourself rather then someone else.
And remember that your external world clearly reflects your inner world if your judging on the inside or controlling on the inside it’s going to be pretty hard to be anything else on the outside,So if you want love from the external world then the place to start is making some changes with you’re internal world first, I.e if you want your world to change you need to change the way you look at it, also keep a happy song in your heart and surround yourself with love and happiness and always smile even when things are touch because things can change for the best in no time at all and a smile makes even the worst things better. For me having a cool tune running through my mind has always been cause for a happy inner world and it makes the outer world a great place as a result of it too. So keep a good tune in your head and heart and keep a little sunshine in your heart too it always works for me.
Also you might check out Clive Harvey Fox. The Indigo-Man,Author- Finding My Gift. Creator - Life Support for the Conscious (inspirational quotes) Teacher - RENA1SSANCE QUEST - the art of self-love (using MORE or LESS as guides) Articulate speaker.
http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/group.php?gid=50879971145
Sunday, February 8, 2009
Standing on higher ground And Not falling into the Rabbit hole again
How often have you stood on higher ground from where you once stood and started thinking about how you didn't want to fall back down into that mental rabbit hole again?We do not stand now where we stood at one time. Some of us have slid down further then we once were and wish to climb back up to a higher ground again, while others are now higher then they ever were before and understandably do not wish to fall back down into that low place “Rabbit hole” again.
Some people have seen great highs in life while others have seen some really low “Low’s” and wish nothing more then to see the higher ground but not only to see it but to feel it and to touch and to hold it smell it and taste it and to never have to go back to the lows ever again, and isn’t that what everyone wants in life? To have a great life and to never fall into the rabbit hole again and not wanting for the success that others have? Well who wouldn’t want that life?
Yes some times we do fall down again and some times again and again but we get up again and again as well and it’s always stronger then when we fell that we get up again and having more knowledge this time around.
Though it seems that the fear, hate or resentment of being in that hole again makes others fear hate or resent others for being in that very position that you were in at one time. I’ve seen it a lot and good example of it are of someone who was once poor and no longer so but not wanting anything at all to do with people who are poor, Which is indeed that person’s choice but that person acts like people who have reached a low are poison and are going to bring them back down to their level and that not being true especially if your emotionally secure and do not emulate another situation and troubles then of course there’s no worries there.
Then of course there is the case of feeling embarrassed and/or ashamed about even having stunk to that low in the first place and though for many it wasn’t their fault in the first place they still feel bad about it and myself not with standing feel bad about stinking to a “low” but some times you have to fall hard before life has your full undivided attention and then be able to get back again better then ever and if you see it that way most of those things that happen your “falling down” are a wake up call from your life which is in it self nothing more then a blessing but most people don’t see it that way until maybe much later.
While others still continue to hate and resent themselves and to feel ashamed and disappointed and so unless they can learn to deal with what they were given and to forgive themselves and move on it still seems that they will resent others when they could and/or should be showing them compassion instead because they know what it’s like to be there.
Well needless to say there’s nothing to feel bad about even if you feel ashamed at yourself for having been down so low, many people were there before you and there’s going to be many more there after you and even though you feel disappointed in yourself about it you will have to find it in you to forgive yourself and move on from there and take the lessons you surely learned from it and put them to good use and not hold resentment against others for being where you yourself were once because “Unless you have traveled their road you’ve no right to judge another until you have been down their road”
Plus it’s easy to resent because you see a part of yourself in them and you can really hate that in yourself and in another person and also if you fear that they will bring you back down to their level then only the fear of being that again will in it self bring you back down because will you fear will inevitably give you what you fear in the end because thoughts create our world and that which get on a daily basis is thus our thoughts rather it is something we want or something we do not want, We get it because we think about it a lot but that is another thing altogether though it is still very true. Though however if you are emulating another’s troubles and situation then you’ll start having trouble in your own life seeing things from a positive perspective and you do not need to bring someone else’s trouble in your own life when all you need to do is listen to the person and offer advice if and/or when or where it is needed and leave it at that and if you find that hard to do then it is best that you practice break away points where you just tell yourself that it’s enough and every time you start thinking about it you are going to think about some more positive instead or if you want to think about then you will promise yourself to think about for only ten minutes of your time and ONLY for ten minutes and no more then that at en appointed you choose in your day.
Because I repeat you do not need to take on someone else’s trouble when you have your own life no matter how much you might be able to relate to them and no matter how much you care it’s still no good for you to emulate them.
So while I now understand better why some resent others for being where they at one time were themselves I still can not make them change nor can I get them to see if from my point of view, All that I can do is ask that people have more compassion for others because they too have been through tough times and they of all people be able to understand and of all people you’d think that they would show compassion but they are few and far in-between because they don’t care to come face to face with a reflection of what they once were.
So for those kind of people I’ll say have a little compassion when you know what it’s like to be there and do not to emulate another person when their trouble is not yours to bear just be a good person and listen to another in their time of need.
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Friday, January 23, 2009
Stepping outside of your comfort Zone.- Welcome to the life that’s been waiting for You.
Stepping outside of your comfort Zone.- Welcome to the life that’s been waiting for You.
Like must of us you've probably heard people say "If you want to get something you've never had, You have to step outside your comfort Zone" I learned the real meaning of stepping outside your comfort zone for myself a few months ago now and I now know what it’s all like how it feels and some times we all need a good push the first time of stepping outside of our comfort zone but I will say to never wait to be kicked out! Though I believe that when we’re ready to step out it’s really easy and you find it to be a great thing and you will find the life out there that has been waiting for you all along.
Stepping outside of your comfort zone not only means going after what you want and doing things even though your not comfortable doing them but it also means change and a lot of it in order for this to happen, Change is a constant must and a constant thing in life for us, the people around us and for life it self .
Stepping outside your comfort zone means being vulnerable and even though it's a bit scary I found that the rewards were well worth it in the end and being vulnerable makes you feel so alive and though like myself you may want to run back to your comfort zone i.e. the place where you feel safe from harm you’ll find that it’s not bad at all and it’s not really scary at all it’s just something that you’ve never known.
It means that if you never try to doing anything different then what and all that you know now then you will never see any change in life and it will hold you back from great things happening for you in life such as doing and being more then you are currently and being who you were always meant to become.
At the same time it's like wanting change but fearing it so much that your to paralyzed to move, So you just keep going in circles never changing and never growing or learning and living all that you were meant to live in life.
That's why most of us know what we want but don't believe we can really have or deserve it.
Because even though we want it we wont most of the time take a step in a new direction to get what we want most.
That is a limited belief, because it is far easier to say ‘Well I can't get it anyway so why try’?
Wont the rewards be worth the risk? And the risk may not be that big or bad as you think it is and most times the risk is far smaller then you think or feel it is it is all just something that you are afraid to try so it keeps you stuck in place because of the fear of it and fear is the biggest and worst enemy you have.
Risk and change are something of which we all need on a regular basis and the worst part of it is that most of us know that we need that change but are to scared to take a chance and see what we get when we take that chance and being as how that means being vulnerable that also means being open to hurt and no one likes to get hurt,
It COULD also mean a little criticism and change from the normal day to day routine and even though most of us want that much needed change we also fear it at the same time, So it leaves you slipping back into the same old rut again and again not making any progress or moving forward.
When you start stepping outside your comfort zone all you really need to do is just take baby steps at first, You can take big steps if you wish though I would highly suggest small steps because your use to what your trying to do, though you may feel scared at first and very vulnerable it’s okay to be vulnerable because being vulnerable isn't that bad and life I said it makes you feel super alive and once you start to take small steps outside your comfort zone you’ll see what I mean and you’ll realize that you haven’t been really living until you start doing little things towards stepping out and you’ll see how quicker things start lining up just right in your life for you.
Being vulnerable makes you feel more alive and more in tune with everything yourself and more in tune with life and then you will begin to notice this more and more you’ll also begin to feel more joy and happiness in life and you’ll be more happy with yourself as well and life will become easier and fun and will flow almost effortlessly.
Here’s a few tips I would suggest for stepping outside your comfort zone and are many of the things I did.
1) Get a Mentor or Coach, So that you have someone to coach you in your efforts and will hold you accountable.
2) Figure out what your comfort zone and formulate a plan for stepping outside of it and take steps daily for stepping outside your comfort zone.
3) Always take small steps at first as it’s something that your not use to doing and you need to be a bit comfortable doing it. Though you will at a certain point want to push yourself a little to see how you do because after a time you be ready for it so take a chance on yourself and your inner strengths
4) Break your daily routines and try something new at least once a day.
5)If your shy like myself then try meeting a few new people and talking to them even if only a small conversation it’s worth it and it will help build confidants at the same time.
6) Also after you’ve tried doing many of the above it’s good to start pushing yourself a little and putting yourself out there more then you’re at first comfortable doing because it will in the long run help to further you and you’ll most likely find that it helps you out a lot more then you would otherwise have thought that it would.
7) Do at one thing that makes you feel uncomfortable doing and tell yourself that you are the hero and everything you need is there inside of you and that you know you can do it! And that you have what it takes!
Take a chance on life and find out what you can do and all you can be, "Life has always been there waiting for you to be ready for it, When your ready the world is open for you and waiting for you to realize that it needs you more then you would ever know and what you have to offer...so are you ready for it?.”
Take a chance on life.
Here’s to you and all that you don’t know that you are.
Blessings love and light to guide your path always.
Like must of us you've probably heard people say "If you want to get something you've never had, You have to step outside your comfort Zone" I learned the real meaning of stepping outside your comfort zone for myself a few months ago now and I now know what it’s all like how it feels and some times we all need a good push the first time of stepping outside of our comfort zone but I will say to never wait to be kicked out! Though I believe that when we’re ready to step out it’s really easy and you find it to be a great thing and you will find the life out there that has been waiting for you all along.
Stepping outside of your comfort zone not only means going after what you want and doing things even though your not comfortable doing them but it also means change and a lot of it in order for this to happen, Change is a constant must and a constant thing in life for us, the people around us and for life it self .
Stepping outside your comfort zone means being vulnerable and even though it's a bit scary I found that the rewards were well worth it in the end and being vulnerable makes you feel so alive and though like myself you may want to run back to your comfort zone i.e. the place where you feel safe from harm you’ll find that it’s not bad at all and it’s not really scary at all it’s just something that you’ve never known.
It means that if you never try to doing anything different then what and all that you know now then you will never see any change in life and it will hold you back from great things happening for you in life such as doing and being more then you are currently and being who you were always meant to become.
At the same time it's like wanting change but fearing it so much that your to paralyzed to move, So you just keep going in circles never changing and never growing or learning and living all that you were meant to live in life.
That's why most of us know what we want but don't believe we can really have or deserve it.
Because even though we want it we wont most of the time take a step in a new direction to get what we want most.
That is a limited belief, because it is far easier to say ‘Well I can't get it anyway so why try’?
Wont the rewards be worth the risk? And the risk may not be that big or bad as you think it is and most times the risk is far smaller then you think or feel it is it is all just something that you are afraid to try so it keeps you stuck in place because of the fear of it and fear is the biggest and worst enemy you have.
Risk and change are something of which we all need on a regular basis and the worst part of it is that most of us know that we need that change but are to scared to take a chance and see what we get when we take that chance and being as how that means being vulnerable that also means being open to hurt and no one likes to get hurt,
It COULD also mean a little criticism and change from the normal day to day routine and even though most of us want that much needed change we also fear it at the same time, So it leaves you slipping back into the same old rut again and again not making any progress or moving forward.
When you start stepping outside your comfort zone all you really need to do is just take baby steps at first, You can take big steps if you wish though I would highly suggest small steps because your use to what your trying to do, though you may feel scared at first and very vulnerable it’s okay to be vulnerable because being vulnerable isn't that bad and life I said it makes you feel super alive and once you start to take small steps outside your comfort zone you’ll see what I mean and you’ll realize that you haven’t been really living until you start doing little things towards stepping out and you’ll see how quicker things start lining up just right in your life for you.
Being vulnerable makes you feel more alive and more in tune with everything yourself and more in tune with life and then you will begin to notice this more and more you’ll also begin to feel more joy and happiness in life and you’ll be more happy with yourself as well and life will become easier and fun and will flow almost effortlessly.
Here’s a few tips I would suggest for stepping outside your comfort zone and are many of the things I did.
1) Get a Mentor or Coach, So that you have someone to coach you in your efforts and will hold you accountable.
2) Figure out what your comfort zone and formulate a plan for stepping outside of it and take steps daily for stepping outside your comfort zone.
3) Always take small steps at first as it’s something that your not use to doing and you need to be a bit comfortable doing it. Though you will at a certain point want to push yourself a little to see how you do because after a time you be ready for it so take a chance on yourself and your inner strengths
4) Break your daily routines and try something new at least once a day.
5)If your shy like myself then try meeting a few new people and talking to them even if only a small conversation it’s worth it and it will help build confidants at the same time.
6) Also after you’ve tried doing many of the above it’s good to start pushing yourself a little and putting yourself out there more then you’re at first comfortable doing because it will in the long run help to further you and you’ll most likely find that it helps you out a lot more then you would otherwise have thought that it would.
7) Do at one thing that makes you feel uncomfortable doing and tell yourself that you are the hero and everything you need is there inside of you and that you know you can do it! And that you have what it takes!
Take a chance on life and find out what you can do and all you can be, "Life has always been there waiting for you to be ready for it, When your ready the world is open for you and waiting for you to realize that it needs you more then you would ever know and what you have to offer...so are you ready for it?.”
Take a chance on life.
Here’s to you and all that you don’t know that you are.
Blessings love and light to guide your path always.
Thursday, January 22, 2009
The World of Hope Lies within You.
The World of hope lies within you.Every time you fall you have the strength within yourself to rise again stronger then before and in that is the knowing that every answer you seek also lays within you.
Those answers can come to you easily when you take the time to listen to what’s going on in the inside with the intention of learning.
So it is time to take a journey within and find the one person who knows you best and who always has the answers to every question that you would ask of another and in even in every troubling time you may be faced with ..the strength lays within to overcome that too.
By using the power of journalizing to find self realization and the power within you to do anything you might have at once thought that you could not do.
When trouble comes to us we often times search for something to helps us out of the trouble that we face when instead we should be looking within ourselves knowing that the one who's truly going to save us from our troubles is one person we look at in the mirror day in and day out.
Look at yourself and see the strength that lays within to do the otherwise thought impossible and to overcome times of strife and challenge.
Look within you to find the confidence and courage to take small steps outside of your comfort zone to become more then you know you could be and to rise to the challenges that life gives you as are needed so that you are better able to face them all with clarity and certainty you’ll have achieved.
Look within to find answers to daily challenges that you are faced with and you will find the answers when you open your heart to learning and listen closely to what is being said.
You are your own hero.
You make your own luck and you are the writer of the story of your life and you choose how you live your life and who stays and who leaves.
You are the only one who can create the life you want to live and you are the one who determines what you get in your life by your thoughts feelings and actions, for whatever you think about most...that you will become be it good or bad it is all up to you.
It is how you make your luck and creates your destiny and in full it creates the story that is your life as you know it.
Choose to make it the best life you can have right here, right now make it all it can be.
Dream big. Think Big. Live your life as if it was the biggest and best thing you could ever want if you had your choice from the very first breathe you ever drew in this life.
Live each day as if it was your last and choose to make it the best day of your life ever!.
For if it was your last day in life you would want it to always be your very best, so that if you were told it was to be your last you would know that you spent it was the you could have made it. Make it so.
Seek to find your purpose in life so that you always live it fulfilled
Choose love and peace. Choose to inspire encourage and empower.
Choose to be kind thoughtful loving and forgiving. To others as well as to yourself thus you should always be in every breathe.
Choose to live in the NOW Moment and choose to live your life to be the best you can be.
To all of that is the world that lays within. See it! Be it! Know it and go it!
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