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When the door closes on something good do you stand look at the closed door so long and miss the open door? It is usually because you fear change so you stand and wait hoping against all hope that the closed door will reopen and let you back in.
Only once it is closed it will never open to you again because everything you needed to learn from it you already have. There is nothing more for you there but to pick up and move on but what you may not realize is that the closed door caused change too.
So even though you don’t want change and are scared of it you still get it whether or not you want it. It doesn’t matter what way you look at it the closed door behind you is change in and of itself as is the open door in front of you.
So you try to hold onto the close door as long as you can because you know it and all it holds but the new door you do not. Since it is unexplored who knows what it might hold for you and some times you would rather not chance it.
In childhood I use to hold onto the good times with all my might never wanting to let go for anything. Because I found change so scary and thought that good times were few and far in between.
When I was five or six years old there was almost always places to go and people to visit, friends, cousins and grandparents. As I got older those times that were so fun became fewer and fewer so I started to miss them more and more.
Whenever someone would stop by for a while and leave I got a huge sense of loss and didn’t want them to leave. As I got a bit older I started hating those times and didn’t want to see anyone anymore hoping to not feel the emptiness it left behind.
So much so that I started hating any change big or small and would dig in my feet against anything I didn’t like. Or something that had the appearance of bringing change along with it and when something did I always wanted it to go back to what it had been.
To that degree some of us fear change because at a young age if it gives you a strong painful emotion. An emotion you don’t know how to deal with that comes from change so you will always fear change and be afraid of anything that is in any way related to it.
Thus you get a strong sense of dread whenever you start a new journey or think you are going to start a new journey. Usually you stop yourself from moving forward because you try to hold onto something that you feel is good not wanting to loss it.
At the end of every journey another one begins and at the end you are not only saying good bye to something good. You are also saying good bye to a part of you that you were and no longer need so you can become more.
Only the release of good bye can allow you to move on and become more and be who you are meant to be. Journeys end does not have to be sad unless you make it that way instead it can be a joy of saying thank you for all I was and learned and will become.
You can say good bye with happiness for all the journey has brought you and for the wonderfully thought of what is to come. When one door closes another one opens and when you have completed a journey are about to say good bye and move on say thank you for everything.
Let everything that you saw, felt, thought and experienced come to mind and be grateful for it all and move forward. I look forward to every new beginning and gratefully say good bye because there is always one person that come with me on every journey.
That person I know I will always get to take with me no matter what and that person becomes better with every passing day. That person to me is of course me and when you look in the mirror the person that goes with you on all your own journeys is YOU.
Beautiful wonderful you! Always love the person you are and be grateful that you will always be there for everything. So has ended for me a journey that seems I started a lifetime ago now and yet it wasn’t so long at all.
Now I joyfully start a new one that is even more amazing then the one before because of all the changes I see in myself and in life surrounding. There is much beauty to see when you are in between the ending of one journey and the beginning of a new one.
Look around you the color of everything is brighter and the things you see every day or brighter. Every has looks the same but has somehow changed because it is you that has changed and when you do. Everything else changes with you, because it is all you and always has been and always will be.
Take a good look.
How often have you stood on higher ground from where you once stood and started thinking about how you didn't want to fall back down into that mental rabbit hole again?
We do not stand now where we stood at one time. Some of us have slid down further then we once were and wish to climb back up to a higher ground again, while others are now higher then they ever were before and understandably do not wish to fall back down into that low place “Rabbit hole” again.
Some people have seen great highs in life while others have seen some really low “Low’s” and wish nothing more then to see the higher ground but not only to see it but to feel it and to touch and to hold it smell it and taste it and to never have to go back to the lows ever again, and isn’t that what everyone wants in life? To have a great life and to never fall into the rabbit hole again and not wanting for the success that others have? Well who wouldn’t want that life?
Yes some times we do fall down again and some times again and again but we get up again and again as well and it’s always stronger then when we fell that we get up again and having more knowledge this time around.
Though it seems that the fear, hate or resentment of being in that hole again makes others fear hate or resent others for being in that very position that you were in at one time. I’ve seen it a lot and good example of it are of someone who was once poor and no longer so but not wanting anything at all to do with people who are poor, Which is indeed that person’s choice but that person acts like people who have reached a low are poison and are going to bring them back down to their level and that not being true especially if your emotionally secure and do not emulate another situation and troubles then of course there’s no worries there.
Then of course there is the case of feeling embarrassed and/or ashamed about even having stunk to that low in the first place and though for many it wasn’t their fault in the first place they still feel bad about it and myself not with standing feel bad about stinking to a “low” but some times you have to fall hard before life has your full undivided attention and then be able to get back again better then ever and if you see it that way most of those things that happen your “falling down” are a wake up call from your life which is in it self nothing more then a blessing but most people don’t see it that way until maybe much later.
While others still continue to hate and resent themselves and to feel ashamed and disappointed and so unless they can learn to deal with what they were given and to forgive themselves and move on it still seems that they will resent others when they could and/or should be showing them compassion instead because they know what it’s like to be there.
Well needless to say there’s nothing to feel bad about even if you feel ashamed at yourself for having been down so low, many people were there before you and there’s going to be many more there after you and even though you feel disappointed in yourself about it you will have to find it in you to forgive yourself and move on from there and take the lessons you surely learned from it and put them to good use and not hold resentment against others for being where you yourself were once because “Unless you have traveled their road you’ve no right to judge another until you have been down their road”
Plus it’s easy to resent because you see a part of yourself in them and you can really hate that in yourself and in another person and also if you fear that they will bring you back down to their level then only the fear of being that again will in it self bring you back down because will you fear will inevitably give you what you fear in the end because thoughts create our world and that which get on a daily basis is thus our thoughts rather it is something we want or something we do not want, We get it because we think about it a lot but that is another thing altogether though it is still very true. Though however if you are emulating another’s troubles and situation then you’ll start having trouble in your own life seeing things from a positive perspective and you do not need to bring someone else’s trouble in your own life when all you need to do is listen to the person and offer advice if and/or when or where it is needed and leave it at that and if you find that hard to do then it is best that you practice break away points where you just tell yourself that it’s enough and every time you start thinking about it you are going to think about some more positive instead or if you want to think about then you will promise yourself to think about for only ten minutes of your time and ONLY for ten minutes and no more then that at en appointed you choose in your day.
Because I repeat you do not need to take on someone else’s trouble when you have your own life no matter how much you might be able to relate to them and no matter how much you care it’s still no good for you to emulate them.
So while I now understand better why some resent others for being where they at one time were themselves I still can not make them change nor can I get them to see if from my point of view, All that I can do is ask that people have more compassion for others because they too have been through tough times and they of all people be able to understand and of all people you’d think that they would show compassion but they are few and far in-between because they don’t care to come face to face with a reflection of what they once were.
So for those kind of people I’ll say have a little compassion when you know what it’s like to be there and do not to emulate another person when their trouble is not yours to bear just be a good person and listen to another in their time of need.
